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originally posted by: TerryMcGuire
Now here is a curious notion.
This week my cousin is visiting and along with her, her grandson who is six, and having him around has caused me to think on some things. They are only vague thoughts and I thought I would bring them here and see if any one else has impressions like these.
The best way I can zero in on what I am considering is by citing that old Mad TV recurring character where one of the comedians dresses up like a little spoiled rotten kid called Stuart. In the skits he is constantly demanding attention, always wanting to be watched, to be seen. He does the stupidest little things and pouts and runs off to his room to hide when his mother does not see.
That is this grand-nephew to a tee, yet to single him out only diminishes my query. And I am pretty sure that my close proximity to this child and the nuisance he presents might be all that there is to it, yet still I wonder.
I see this all the time, kids at the pool saying watch me watch me watch me. Just jumping into the water needs an audience. I have seen kids stand at the edge of the pool and wait for some one to see them before making the jump. Or kicking a hacky sack, see me see me. See what I can do.
Now certainly this is probably little more than a child's sense of being at the center of the world, about a child’s need to be part of the whole if not the center of the whole and nothing more. Most likely. But still I wonder.
I know this has been prevalent for most of my life and my life goes back to the pre-TV days. When I was young and in school, when we accomplished something, a skill, or a talent, were singing in the school choir or excelling in studies we were always rewarded with applause and admiration, and this I suppose has always been the case. But now it seems that every little breath, every little dance and mud pie must be praised, well not praised but rather 'witnessed' as if in not being witnessed, it has no value, no reality.
And I am wondering if before the time of TV and movies where everything is witnessed if maybe this need to be seen and applauded all the time might come from the plethora of cameras all around us. I wonder if before this tech, was it so necessary to be seen doing something mundane or did a kid just do it with no need to be seen doing it. And if this might be true, would this not mark a massive change in the nature of how consciousness is developed in recent times. This feeding of the ego?
And I wonder at all the people now who are pining to be actors, to be celebrities, to be stars. At all the people posting on Facebook with pictures of their dinners and selfie after selfie after selfie, and updating them almost daily to keep the world informed of present appearances.
Anyone else wonder about these things?
No matter what a person does . . . there is always a reason behind it. . . . There's no such thing, no matter how peculiar of any human behavior without a reason . . .
. . . Of course if you ever hope to understand another human being; if you ever hope to influence another human being, you must understand them in terms of his wants. . . .
Well, what do human beings want? What do you want? What do any of us want?
Actually, ladies and gentlemen, the whole drama of life springs out of four basic wants--four things that make us all do what we do. Here they are in a nutshell:
1. I want to live . . . and be healthy . . . forever.
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2. I want a feeling of importance, prestige, power, respect. We all want that. That's why we say "Who do you think you're talking to?" And that's what makes people brag and show off. . . . [4:39] Did you ever see a little boy who goes swimming or skating and he always says "Watch me, mamma, watch me! !!WATCH ME MAMMA!!" The mamma can say--"Ohhhhh you're wonderful, wonderful! And he loves that praise.
And adults are just the same. Of course, we can't go around saying "EVERYBODY, PLEASE, WATCH ME!" Now we do it with our cars, clothes, furs--Now why does every woman want a fur coat--especially a mink coat. Skunk will keep you just as warm as mink. "Naw naw. I've got to have mink." Now listen, the only one who really needs a mink is a mink. He's got to have it.
Now just give it a little thought. There's really very little difference between infancy and adults. . . .
In connection with a feeling of importance, . . .
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Thank you for giving me something to think about, other than politics...