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originally posted by: NthOther
Men don't want to "debate" women. We're not interested in "competing" with them. Men look to women for companionship and support, not to argue.
That's what we have our guys friends for. We talk to women differently because we look at them different.
We're kinda born that way, you know?
originally posted by: seeker1963
a reply to: SaturnFX
I have a 16 year old "feminist" daughter. She lives with her mother, so I try to be the cool dad and listen to her problems without judging her, while providing her with guidance on life is about making choices, myself and your mother have taught you right from wrong, so any choice you make , knowing you have been taught right from wrong is YOUR CHOICE, and you will suffer any negative consequences for making that choice!
Needless to say, I have a blast using her feminist beliefs to show her she is a hypocrite when she tells me about the stupid boys in her life!
originally posted by: SaturnFX
originally posted by: seeker1963
a reply to: SaturnFX
I have a 16 year old "feminist" daughter. She lives with her mother, so I try to be the cool dad and listen to her problems without judging her, while providing her with guidance on life is about making choices, myself and your mother have taught you right from wrong, so any choice you make , knowing you have been taught right from wrong is YOUR CHOICE, and you will suffer any negative consequences for making that choice!
Needless to say, I have a blast using her feminist beliefs to show her she is a hypocrite when she tells me about the stupid boys in her life!
most women (especially teens) have no clue what feminism is. they usually drop that title as they get older and go more for equality and respect (egalitarianism) while preserving gender role identity. happier outcome.
originally posted by: SaturnFX
you will be surprised to find out women are actually pretty clever people also who can match you in debate....possibly even run circles around you if you are stuck in thinking they are somehow lesser and put your guard down.
originally posted by: seeker1963
originally posted by: SaturnFX
originally posted by: seeker1963
a reply to: SaturnFX
I have a 16 year old "feminist" daughter. She lives with her mother, so I try to be the cool dad and listen to her problems without judging her, while providing her with guidance on life is about making choices, myself and your mother have taught you right from wrong, so any choice you make , knowing you have been taught right from wrong is YOUR CHOICE, and you will suffer any negative consequences for making that choice!
Needless to say, I have a blast using her feminist beliefs to show her she is a hypocrite when she tells me about the stupid boys in her life!
most women (especially teens) have no clue what feminism is. they usually drop that title as they get older and go more for equality and respect (egalitarianism) while preserving gender role identity. happier outcome.
She isn't quite to the militant stage yet, but not to worry, ole Dad is having fun with planting some important seeds she will need in her later life!
I can't make the plant grow, but I certainly as a parent can plant a seed.....
originally posted by: SaturnFX
Hi folks. read before judging the content:
I came across a thread where people were discussing something and a male and female were debating something. well, the male was calling the opinion that the woman posted (not her opinion) stupid. she responded by saying it wasn't her thoughts, but if he wants to debate something, basically bring it.
The guys response was to say he wasn't intending it to be her..just used her by proxy..fine..but then he said it
he said he is never aggressive towards women, and it would be his first time ever to basically be unpleasant to a female online (aka, calling her stupid).
Right...this is not a new thing..its very common actually. men believing they are being chivalrous in being forever nice and pleasant in debates when they realize they are talking to a female
Problem is, they may not understand just how absolutely insulting this is.
Women are equally as capable at debating, taking and giving insults, and understanding complex ideas as men. they are genuinely equal here and should therefore be treated equally. To actively speak differently to a woman in a discussion than you would a man, to be softer to her, is to suggest that she is emotionally or intellectually inferior and you must protect her from your stronger words. basically, you are suggesting you need to treat women like children.
never make this mistake, and never assume by being pleasant to women in general moreso than men, you are somehow doing them a favor...rather, its a slap.
So, if you would normally call a man a idiot for saying something idiotic..feel absolutely free to call a woman the same thing. she isn't an idiot because she is a woman, she is a idiot because she...is an idiot.
however...
I would say it might just be better to aim for cleaning up your views towards men and using a tone of respect as the norm for everyone, avoiding insults of a person when discussing an idea.
ideas are often stupid..people...well, people can be complicated
I am ranting here, but also learning. for too long I have, through seemingly desired pleasantness, treated women differently than men as the norm. I have lately been seeing this not as some merit, but a disgraceful behavior.
naa, women..you are idiots just like men. trust me, it takes one to know one.
so, thoughts?
should this also be pushed onto things like opening doors for women? (I dont think it should. opening doors is an accepted gender norm not really saying anything about anyone as a person...outside of maybe men will use their greater strength to help women in physical matters (if you want to get really philosophical))
originally posted by: NthOther
It's simply not as important tousME as you'd like to think it is.
originally posted by: SaturnFX
originally posted by: seeker1963
originally posted by: SaturnFX
originally posted by: seeker1963
a reply to: SaturnFX
I have a 16 year old "feminist" daughter. She lives with her mother, so I try to be the cool dad and listen to her problems without judging her, while providing her with guidance on life is about making choices, myself and your mother have taught you right from wrong, so any choice you make , knowing you have been taught right from wrong is YOUR CHOICE, and you will suffer any negative consequences for making that choice!
Needless to say, I have a blast using her feminist beliefs to show her she is a hypocrite when she tells me about the stupid boys in her life!
most women (especially teens) have no clue what feminism is. they usually drop that title as they get older and go more for equality and respect (egalitarianism) while preserving gender role identity. happier outcome.
She isn't quite to the militant stage yet, but not to worry, ole Dad is having fun with planting some important seeds she will need in her later life!
I can't make the plant grow, but I certainly as a parent can plant a seed.....
you gotta be careful though. impressionable age and all.
the womens sufferage movement might be a good thing to introduce her to, and how it splintered into the militant sufferagettes that did more harm than good in activism.
then show the side by side comparison of the womens equality activists doing damn good work for equality verses the feminists movement focused on advancing womens issues (without end, without equality as the goal).
but once you start that, you may end up cultivating an extremist on the opposite end and create a anti-feminist. not a desirable outcome.
I reckon yeah, just keep countering her ideology with her actions and she will eventually see the hypocracy is unsustainable and choose misery or happyness.
originally posted by: cody599
a reply to: SaturnFX
On ATS we're talking to on line persona's
Hence we make assumptions, just because a user assumes a personality, or gender doesn't make it so. My pet troll can appear in many guises, and indeed has over the last couple of years. One time a virile male, an alcoholic, another a vulnerable female.
But as in poker he/she has a tell
Never assume