a reply to: Meee32
Okay,I'm trying to be totally honest here. I know you are really angry from reading your post. And I agree that no one needs a diet of sugar and
laying around in front of a TV . This is an unhealthy life style. But I wish to make several points here.
1. It is obvious to me that there is a real issue that goes deeper here. Think we can all see that. This is about losing control. I know that you want
the best for the kids and I can agree with that having raised 2 boys.But you need to take a deep breathe and relax. Notice I didn't say ignore,just
relax. You don't want to stroke out over this when you can't be there at your ex's house to change anything.
2.Chocolate is not bad for you. It like everything else should be eaten in moderation. Yes there are sugars in it,but we even need some sugar in our
diets just like we need a certain amount of fat. This is about moderation again though.
3. Bodies are made to get up and move. Not lay or sit around. Kids should be getting exercise every day.They should be normally active and want to get
exercise. With all the gadgets we now have in our homes,kids have learned to be lazy like adults.
4. Water is essential, you need a certain amount every day to keep things functioning like they should and I agree,they should be drinking water,with
soda only being a sometimes 'treat'.
It sounds like you ex is going through what most parents go through after a divorce,guilt. I failed at my marriage and so I failed my kids.There fore
I will make it up to them by letting them do whatever they want,instead of being their parent which they really need right now more than ever.
Ultimately,you can only control what goes on in your home. If your ex is determined to let them run like wild animals there is not much you can do
about it,unless it is something that is bringing them into immediate danger.Then the courts need to be informed.
I know that it is frustrating when you can't get a spouse (as in my case) or an ex to cooperate and do whats best for the kids at BOTH homes. But you
need to stick by your own rules,because in the long run,one day when they are older,they WILL remember that you were doing what was best for them,and
that the other parent wasn't. The ex will look bad in their eyes and they will start asking some pointed questions of them.
You don't want to or need to run down the other parent,simply explain to the kids that I know things are done differently at your other parents
house,but here we go by my rules. They are sound rules and they have been thought through for your best interests. You may not thank me now,but one
day you will for caring.
I hope things work out for you,but for your own sake,please lighten up and take things in stride. You can only control yourself,not others. You will
have unending heart ache if you let this all get to you. I'm sorry.