a reply to: theyknowwhoyouare
This is the saddest and grossest story. I imagine this pour soul felt ashamed and horrified at his/her condition and probably had many dreams of
getting down to the right size at some point. I'm sure they did wonder what their death and funeral service would be like if they were to weigh 500 at
death and most likely felt some panic at the mere thought.
Who knows what this individual's issue was: mental health issue, the weight got so out of control they couldn't start a plan to lose it, perhaps they
were addicted to food, maybe food was all they knew in this world. Maybe they didn't know the right way to eat - learning to eat food as fuel for the
body takes research/time/interest. Not everyone is as educated about food being a tool (if I can use that word for this purpose) for one's body.
I think it's so sad to see these souls trapped in their immense bodies and they don't have a clue how to solve it.
However, what I will say, is I do not understand the people that are trapped in their beds. They are so large that they can't even get out of bed and
need medical assistance. Why would their loved ones/caretaker go and purchase the type of diet that has contributed to this state? I guess the family
members/etc also feel trapped and don't know how to help. But if your loved one isn't able to get out of bed and is getting bed sores and can't work
they will either die without your help or they will eat what you bring them. Yeah, it's a muddled mess and I have never been in that situation so can
only guess, but not judge. I try to understand it but I think it's that people just don't know what to do.
I don't know that they even make caskets that large. And how would you lower the body into the ground? I don't know if there is a weight limit on the
mechanism that lowers the body into the ground. You would need more than the usual pallbearers.
As for funerals, the average cost is $10,000 here in Canada for a funeral. Some funeral plots have space for two people to be buried on top of each
other. But most plots are sold a single plots. I don't know that you could bury a loved one atop an already buried person. I imagine if you had enough
money it could be done but that would mean digging up the original casket/liner and redoing everything which would be probably more than buying a
single new plot. And so you have the cost of a casket which range from cardboard, plywood, to oak with brass handles. You can even purchase your own
funeral casket from Costco, or buy an environmental type like a wicker casket or a basket type. They even sell body blanket/shawl type ones now. You
also have the cost of the embalming, makeup, the transportation fee of the body to the funeral home. Then do you want a service? You can pay for the
church, the minister, luncheon after, flowers. Do you want a crypt? Well then maybe you want a little flower holder, and a name plaque, maybe a
permanent little marker or symbol. If you don't want a crypt then do you want a plot? You have to buy the liner that the casket sits within. Did you
want a marker? Is it going to be something small, stone or some elaborate engraved headstone. Now, do you want a flower vase to go with it? The words
and image will cost on the headstone. Don't forget about the hearse to the gravesite. If you want a simple cremation then it's on an average about
$700 to $900. You collect the ashes after in a cardboard box. Or you can arrange to purchase an urn (or maybe bring your own urn) for the ashes when
you go to collect the ashes.
If you want a plot and a funeral I would advise going to a funeral home and buying a pre-bought plan. This means that maybe it takes you 30 years to
die but the funeral home will be held accountable to honour whatever you pre-purchased. If your family decides to maybe give you a nicer casket than
the one you had bought then they can pay the difference. Etc.
Don't forget: do you want an obit in the paper? Depending on the newspaper it can cost you as little as $70 for maybe 5 lines of print. All the way up
to thousands. Depends on what you want to say. An obit is nice as it is then historical document for future generations.
Also be aware that you yourself can transport your loved one's body to the funeral home. You just need a sturdy container to move the body in. And you
can bury your loved one yourself. All you would be paying for is the death certificate. Maybe one or two more tiny details. All deaths must be noted
by a coroner.
You also need permission to scatter ashes at a lake or private place. Some don't bother but you can't just jump in the car and go scatter Mom's ashes
at the local beach on a whim.
Some beliefs insist on no cremation. With Jewish deaths the body must be buried within 3 days. There is usually a get together at the gravesite at a
later time when the headstone is placed on the site. And this allows the family to come together when due to the quick funeral some might not make it
due to work, etc.
If anyone finds themselves going to a funeral home PLEASE be aware that you are most likely in shock/emotional and you are extremely vulnerable. You
have the right to question all that a funeral home is offering you. If they are going to put in an obit for you proof it over to ensure it is as you
want it to be. This is a piece of history, not just a mention of your loved one. A lot of people use obituaries as historical proof for genealogy,
etc. Also find out the price for everything before you agree to it. Do not trust anyone, as reputable as they may be, with your credit card. You are
not coping on all gears and it is so easy to just think of your loved one being gone from your life and this is where too many people make rash
decisions that they regret later once the grieving starts, or has finished. Don't be taken advantage of based on emotions. Always, always, always find
out what it will cost before you give the go-ahead.
Thought I'd put that together for those who had questions.
edit on 11/10/14 by ccseagull because: (no reason given)