posted on Dec, 7 2004 @ 10:04 PM
Raph, love your avatar, btw.
Anyway rule number 1 to your dilemma. Think hard now. Do you honestly want to be FRIENDS with this girl?? Because if thats the case, why are you so
No, it sounds like you are a bit taken by her, and are interested in pursuing her romantically. Okay now we are getting somewhere.
DO NOT become friends with a girl you have a crush on. It more times then not, will only lead to being in love with a girl who thinks of you as "oh
you're my friend..you're like a brother to me..."
You need to get to know her of course, prior to dating, but do not think that friendship is an automatic in to romance.
So how old are you? Where do you know this girl from?
I am going to take a wild guess and assume you're in highschool, and that's where you know her from?
Here are a couple ideas to get to that hang out/first date, while keeping yourelf from being automatically exiled to Strictly Platonic Island, or
No-Chanceville, as the natives call it.
I am guessing (if you are a student) you have a holiday break coming up. Why don't you approach her (maybe its good to have a little token such as a
holiday wrapped candy), smile, and say "this is for you. Happy holidays..." (I will guess she knows your name..if not introduce yourself at this
Then get the convo rolling "so what are you going to do for christmas break" then tell her your plans. Comment on a few little things you would want
to do (mention a movie maybe, see if she bites and says "me too") talk about christmas gifts and the like. It is okay to keep it brief. Here comes
Now ask for her email (and/or aim) (hold off on the number) and then you can email her in a couple days, and ask her out at a more comfortable pace.
Ask about her. Then add in a few little things about yourself in the same vein "whats your favorite band, Mine is..." Maybe take it to IM if she
uses one. You should be comfortable exchanging phone #s by this time.
(remember it is always easier to ask her about herself)
Eventually you ask her "what are you doing Friday?" then say "maybe we can meet up and go to the *arcade, movie, or record store*" (or *whatever
it is you kids do these days)