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originally posted by: muse7
My life has become so miserable because everywhere I go I see happy couples and I'm reminded of the failure that I am and the things that I'm missing out on. I exercise 3-4 times a week, and I try to look as good as I can but yet none of that has changed my miserable existence. It's almost as if the more I try, the more life humiliates me and I don't know why.
Today, I took a long walk through the park, alone like I always am. It was a beautiful day, but it's funny how even the most beautiful days can seem like the darkest corner of hell if you are alone. During this walk I saw a man that was about 300 pounds, but yet he had a girlfriend. I felt insulted by this, because how can a man like that find a girlfriend but yet here I am alone, even though I exercise 3-4 times a week and always try to dress as nice as I can?
Does this seem fair to anyone?
Before driving to the sorority house, Rodger uploaded a video to YouTube, titled "Elliot Rodger's Retribution", in which he outlined details of his upcoming attack and the motivations behind his killing spree, which he described as a desire to punish women for rejecting him and also a desire to punish sexually active men for living a better life than him
originally posted by: muse7
...I saw a man that did not deserve to even be near the woman he was with.
originally posted by: AugustusMasonicus
originally posted by: muse7
...I saw a man that did not deserve to even be near the woman he was with.
You personally know either one of them? If not, who are you to be judging them?
You obviously have some anger issues and maybe people subtlety (or not so subtlety) pick up on this trait.
originally posted by: muse7
I do NOT have anger issues, I don't go around cursing at people or making rude remarks in their face about them.
I'm one of the most kind and polite persons you'll ever come across.
You'll cross paths with your better half eventually
originally posted by: muse7
Today it happened again, I saw a man that did not deserve to even be near the woman he was with. Whenever I see sights like these it ruins my whole day.
I'll try to convince myself that they were relatives or just friends so I can get some sleep tonight.
originally posted by: CJCrawley
a reply to: kaylaluv
I don't know that the 1950s were a special time for men to approach women.
They've always done it, haven't they?
Maybe North America is different.
originally posted by: Gazrok
Already some great advice in this thread.
My additions are this:
Don't be resentful of others who APPEAR happy (I say appear, because you don't know really). Their happiness or unhappiness has NOTHING to do with your happiness, so why dwell on it?
Find something you like to do, that some single gals like to do too, and participate in this activity. That way, you'll meet women with at least ONE similar interest, and get to know them, vs. trying for random hookups.
Also, you're likely throwing out a "creeper" vibe...which is totally normal for shy guys. Unintentional, but it is like women repellent. You need a good dose of confidence to counteract it. Basically, you need to get laid, and she doesn't have to be a ten. Sounds crass, but I'm totally serious here. Get a pro if needed. Or go to a strip club and get close.
Throwing out the confidence vibe is what these "douchebags" are doing to be with their gals, whether decent looking, or fat guys.
Now, you can get upset at this advice, or follow it, either way, I'm a happy guy, happily married....so take it or leave it. You asked for it, so telling you honestly.