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Every time that I see a successful person or a young couple, hatred and envy takes over me.
originally posted by: kaylaluv
a reply to: muse7
Do you think you are more shy or introverted, or both? I am an introvert who is also shy. I think an introvert is one who simply does not like to be around a lot of people, and a shy person lacks self-confidence, so they are tense and uncomfortable around people. The introvert thing really can't be changed (imo), but the shyness thing can, if one can work on their self-confidence.
I was a lot more timid and shy when I was younger. As I get older, I have gotten less shy. I guess as you get older you gain a little more self-confidence (or you just don't give a crap what people think of you anymore - ha). But I'm still pretty introverted, i.e., I hate big parties or large family gatherings.
Regarding the girlfriend issue -- don't lose hope. I never dated in high school - never had a boyfriend. I met a boy when I was in college that I dated for about a year. That was pretty much it in college. Not bragging or anything, but I was fairly attractive and got a few offers, but was too darn shy to say yes. That was pretty much the same story all during my twenties. I dated a few times, but it never got very serious. There was one exception, but that guy was a jealous controlling nut. Long story short, by the time I was in my early thirties, I was single and had resigned myself to being that way the rest of my life. I pretty much quit dating altogether.
When I was 34, I had a friend at work who was determined to get me married. She tried to fix me up with a couple of her guy friends, but it never worked out. Then one of her husband's co-workers was getting a divorce, and she thought he would be perfect for me. Of course I resisted at first - same ole, same ole, right? She persisted, and I agreed to go on a blind double-date with her and her husband. Miracle of miracles, we hit it off right away. He is very much a non-shy extrovert, and he had no trouble starting lots of conversations with me. As shy as I was, he pulled me out of my shell. We have now been married for 15 years, and have a beautiful 12-year-old daughter together.
I was hoping my daughter would get my husband's personality, but alas, she appears to be a shy introvert just like me. But I think she'll survive. I did -- and you will too.
originally posted by: bigfatfurrytexan
a reply to: muse7
i don't want to belabor a point here....but "psychologist" is your pathway to equilibrium. Your issues may be clinical (and treatable with a pill), or they may not. But please see someone smarter than the internet. You do deserve to find whatever happiness is to you.