a reply to: Realtruth
I once tried it because I was getting interested in dating again and didn't feel like doing so with most of my peers due to different interests and
such. Nobody I knew at the time made me feel like ''well, we could have at least a good/fun/interesting date together...'' so I signed up, new to it!
I posted a pic of myself and some info about my interests, taste in music and such with a few jokes added in.
I'm speaking from my female experience here: there was a huuuuuuge overload in messages. I at first responded to most if they were polite, read my
profile and didn't inform me about the size of their genitals or something. I'm a rather 'polite' person but eventually it became too much because i
had other things to do and lost interest in many.
Well, eventually I had a rather disastrous date, imo. He was there, I greeted him, and off he went rambling about himself. Endlessly! He seemed almost
surprised if you added in a word or question. ''I like this, I like that, politically I think blabla party X is really good and I went to see Band x
was really nice etc etc'' into oblivion. I went home completely dumbfounded... wtf just happened?
Weird afternoon, and quite awkward. When he shut
up one minute I was so overwhelmed by the huge stream of words I was awkwardly stupefied.
We didn't keep in touch
Then there was an attractive guy and it was ok chatting with him and as he didn't live very far away we met up. I was looking around at the place
where we were supposed to meet and I was looking for a guy like in the picture... turned out the picture was from several years and quite some pounds
ago. Rather put me off, it felt misleading. If he'd been honest and shared some representative pictures I'd have really appreciated that.
Online I spoke to some people but after these dates I didn't really feel like continuing on that site. However, I met many great people/dates/friends
through sites and fora because of mutual interests and mutual liking of each other's posts/persona/etc. I'd suggest you try it, but don't get your
hopes up too much! Some people really met the love of their lives that way though and I really think it's an advantage with internet that you meet
people and can select them based on interests, opinions, if they seem like a somewhat decent person etc.
Edit: It seems to be a common thing to lie/be lied to about looks/etc by the way, so watch out.
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