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reply to post by nugget1
I ESSENTIALLY QUITE AGREE
I do know that I was hysterical in the dentist's chair. I think he was wise to use that method. I don't think any other method would have calmed me . . . certainly short of 30 min to an hour's worth of effort just to quiet me--and the first needle or drill--we'd have been off and running on another round.
Being hysterically out of control is not always solved by better hugging.
Certainly I think children NEED TO BE TAUGHT
carefully and early in graduated steps slowly intensifying as they grow older . . .
1. HANDLE DELAYED GRATIFICATION
2. HANDLE PAIN GRACIOUSLY AND STOICALLY AS FITTING
3. HANDLE BOREDOM CREATIVELY
4. HANDLE DISAPPOINTMENT CREATIVELY, GRACIOUSLY AND MATURELY
5. HANDLE INTEGRITY WITH ABSOLUTE INTEGRITY
6. HANDLE FORGIVENESS & FORGIVING GRACIOUSLY, QUICKLY, FULLY--AND AS OFTEN AS NECESSARY UNTIL IT SINKS IN FULLY
7. HANDLE SUCCESS AND PRAISE HUMBLY
8. HANDLE FAILURE GRACIOUSLY, MATURELY, PHILOSOPHICALLY, REFLECTIVELY AND CREATIVELY.
9. HANDLE ANGER PRODUCTIVELY AND MATURELY--FLUSHING AND DISTRACTING FROM PETTY ANGER AND USING IMPORTANT ANGER REDEMPTIVELY, CONSTRUCTIVELY.
10. HANDLE JEALOUSY BY RESISTING IT WHOLESALE AS BENEATH THEM.
11. HANDLE CHAOS AND CONFUSION BY FOCUSING ON ETERNAL VALUES AND PRIORITIES.
12. HANDLE FEEDBACK AND ADVICE GRACIOUSLY AND WISELY AS FITS THE SITUATION--NOT HAUGHTILY DISMISSING IT EVER.
----------------------------------(C) 2013 by Bo XIan-----------------------------------
But doing any of the above well requires an emotionally bonded, emotionally significant/intense, trustworthy Love relationship with the parentS.
Well knock me down with a feather!
It didn't take long at all until I got to try this out, toddler threatening to draw on the wall with the crayon, after reasoning and attempting to distract fails I have to remove said crayon, a scream ensues, I have the water ready and hand it to her and it goes straight in her mouth, ahhhh silence!
After a few swigs she does go back to moaning for the crayon but the worst is over. I hope this continues, cup of water at the ready!
This technique has been in my repitoire for years! Never though much about it. Glad it made the threads here. Thanks OP.
Even after the fits and fatigue that may land them in their rooms to work out; they get a glass of water. Little bodies transpire a lot when worked up.
It even works with a grumpy 4th time pregnant wife. Particularly effective if you get her talking while she drinks it or lightly massage her head/neck or lower back. That 2-5 min will net you hours of peace-n-quiet.
You're very welcome, and if I had a long enough feather I'd knock you down! I hate those screams of toddlers, they split the air like a siren. Hopefully your daughter will grow up hydrated, vitamin C'ed, and will one day stop drawing on walls with crayons (unless you, whoo, a good idea, why doesn't someone make miniature walls - exact wall material just in the size and shape of a canvas - and let their talented child draw on them with crayon. Then frame them and sell them at craft fairs or, better yet, an art gallery. The first one to do it may turn get some good publicity, and the crayon drawings couldn't be worse than some of the modern art fetching millions of whatever money it is in your country. If someone does this, and becomes famous, I want a piece of the income please, even 1 percent might be worth a fortune if this is done right!). And long post shorter, thanks for trying the glass of water technique out and seeing that it works. Please pass it on to at least one friend.
reply to post by Scouse100
Tried this tonight with my 2-year-old daughter. She took a sip and threw it at me. Definitely a work in progress.
It's funny, all I can think about while reading these threads is "salt toxicity".....
But in all respects , good parenting prevents tantrums from happening in te first place !