Does your love have a secret life?..and you don't know about it.

How many of us ask that question.

How many of us know about the secret lives of our partners ?

What is a secret life of the person next to us,maybe many of us don't wan't to know.It will hurt our feelings,could destroy our lives.
Or,just we are afraid of the truth that is living next to us.And what kind of behaviour we must see?
Maybe we have a secret life and,we are afraid to give the game away,or maybe it was conducted in parallel lives.

Maybe her(his) secret life could become yours.

Take your time before answer,someday you might have a secret life too.

reply to post by diamondsmith


I don't think any of us know of the secret lives of our partners or they wouldn't be secret anymore

Maybe when my girlfriend goes to work she is really a secret government spy . Maybe our 2 year child is supposed to be sleeping is secretly working on plans for a nuclear facility.

Or maybe you have trust issues and question what your partner does when she isn't around. Or maybe it is paranoia .

reply to post by diamondsmith


firstly - to state the blisteringly obvious :

if we knew any detail of our partners alledged " secret life " - it would not be secret

secondly : why are you dweling on the concept of your partner having an alledged secret life ? projecting your fantasies ???

Originally posted by David291
reply to post by diamondsmith

 

I don't think any of us know of the secret lives of our partners or they wouldn't be secret anymore

WOW Not given thought to it, probably we are to young to think to secret lives. I am so....

reply to post by freedomSlave

paranoia

Sometimes paranoia could save your life and life insurance.

Why is everyone being so rude? I think this is a very valid topic. It actually amazes me how many people live in complete denial about their partners.
Maybe I've just been around too much BS to think that a partner would never live even a little bit of a secret life.

Uncles of mine having kids on the side that show their faces 20 years later. Friends who's husbands/wives have been cheating for years.
People who keep severe money problems a secret. People who keep addictions a secret.
And that's all the "normal" stuff.

reply to post by ignorant_ape

secondly : why are you dweling on the concept of your partner having an alledged secret life ? projecting your fantasies ???

Yes,you are right,

TextYour brain doesn't like to keep secrets. Studies at the University of Texas, Austin, have shown that writing down secrets in a journal or telling a doctor your secrets actually decreases the level of stress hormones in your body. Keeping a secret, meanwhile, does the opposite. Your brain also doesn't like stress hormones. So when you have a secret to tell, the part of your brain that wants to tell the secret is constantly fighting with the part of your brain that wants to keep the information hidden, says neuroscientist David Eagleman.

source(www.npr.org...

Sometimes I feel like my partner is Jack Rabbit... Ohhh

Originally posted by diamondsmith
reply to post by freedomSlave

 

paranoia

Sometimes paranoia could save your life and life insurance.

Paranoia can also push loved ones far away .

Secondly If one feels their partner is leading a secret life and lying . I would have to ask why would one want to stay with a liar , someone who is misleading and deceitful. I do realize some people are oblivious to a secret life but always the signs are there.

Originally posted by EmperorXyn
Sometimes I feel like my partner is Jack Rabbit... Ohhh

edit on 2-1-2012 by EmperorXyn because: (no reason given)

Like this?

TextHares are very fast-moving. The European brown hare (Lepus europaeus) can run at speeds of up to 72 km/h (45 mph). They live solitarily or in pairs, while a "drove" is the collective noun for a group of hares. Their bodies are capable of absorbing the g-force produced while running at extreme speeds or while escaping predators.

source(en.wikipedia.org...

reply to post by PassedKarma

People who keep addictions a secret

And they are so many,I wonder how many on this planet.

reply to post by freedomSlave

Secondly If one feels their partner is leading a secret life and lying

Maybe both have a secret life and lying ,the question is who is first in bed to sleep.

Originally posted by diamondsmith
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Secondly If one feels their partner is leading a secret life and lying

Maybe both have a secret life and lying ,the question is who is first in bed to sleep.

edit on 2-1-2012 by diamondsmith because: ,

Then they are perfect for each other

Originally posted by freedomSlave

Originally posted by diamondsmith
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Secondly If one feels their partner is leading a secret life and lying

Maybe both have a secret life and lying ,the question is who is first in bed to sleep.

edit on 2-1-2012 by diamondsmith because: ,

Then they are perfect for each other

If this is perfection the lie is the perfect feeling.

Originally posted by diamondsmith
How many of us ask that question.

What is a secret life of the person next to us

If I told you I'd have to kill you. There's a REASON it's secret.

It's funny you should ask that question on the internet though; one of the best places there are to keep a secret. Vegas aint got nothing on this. I live in a rural area, so living a secret life is next to impossible. Notice I said NEXT to impossible. The internet makes it possible. Here's a hypothetical scenario to help you understand how easy it is to lead a secret life online.

Person A knows person F. They talk to each other online. Their conversations started through person W whom person A requested tell person F where they can chat. We'll call this place site D. It was set up this way because person F is very concerned about their privacy concerning foriegn governmental issues (those Chinese can be real tricky Dick's), and person A thought he/she could trust person W. As it turned out, Person W told other people about the site where A and F chat because person W is an "internet voyeur". Much like his/her friends. Don't ask how person A knew that. It would be giving away foreign secrets. They think they're having innocent fun at A and F's expense, but little do they know that A and F don't appreiciate that and they don't see the humor in it. Not in the least.

Are you following this so far?

Person A is a professional linguist/interpreter and person F is a specialist in hard to decipher coded languages. They're made for each other. At least on a professional level and in a venue such as this. Real life doesn't matter much right now because.....well.....this is all hypothetical after all. With their shared specialties, they devise a way to slip out of view from site D and "canoogle" with each other on site Z. Web cams and all baby !!

Person W and friends are thinking they know what's going on and laughing about it amongst themselves, all the while A and F are having "staged" conversations on site D to throw them all off track. They know what W and friends are looking for in the conversations, so A and F are giving it to them. In spades. While all this is happening, site Z is privvy to A and F's real conversations about things W and friends know nothing about. As it should be. Let's just say that W and friends are 10 watt bulbs in a 100 watt room and leave it at that.

See how easy that was? Did you catch the self-interpretaions that made the codes? When 2 people with the right matching skill sets get together, there's no stopping them.

Next time you ask a hypothetical question, be prepared for a hypothetical answer that may or may not be grounded in reality. The 10 watt bulb may explode.!!



Just to clarify OP, I'm not calling YOU a 10 watt bulb.

reply to post by Taupin Desciple
Patience please... I have to re re re read...

reply to post by Taupin Desciple

If I told you I'd have to kill you

I've been told that before here on ATS,and I understand more then you think,but in the same time the eyes are blind sometimes,and ears not hear,when I aces my IP and see where it points I laugh with a thousand laughs,thinking,oh God how did I do that.



As they say,

Peace

reply to post by diamondsmith


It was all in jest. And again, I wasn't calling YOU a 10 watt bulb. Maybe I should have re-phrased that part of my post. My bad.

It's just that I've been under a lot of stress lately and I REALLY needed to write something funny and lighthearted. For my sake if not for any other reason. Back on track though, leading a secret life has got to be stessfull for both parties involved and kind of a backstabbing gesture to the one or one's who are being decieved. Sometimes it's best to get everything out into the open and damn the consequences. If the 2 people involved know they have something real and long lasting going, again, damn the consequences.

Sometimes your intuition can lead you in a better direction then everybody else whispering in your ear telling you what to do.

I clicked the links in your signature. Nice. Are you foreign? (Non American)

reply to post by Taupin Desciple

I clicked the links in your signature. Nice. Are you foreign? (Non American)

A good question .sometimes I am asking my self what I am,or who I am,or where I am,like someone address me in recent post post asking me (brother/sister?),What could I tell him ?still checking?If I am foreign?Still checking....