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Now contraception is eroding that risk. More importantly, girls have now got better things to do than get married at fifteen. All over the world, more and more girls are staying in school, going to university, getting jobs. Their social horizons are changing, their hormones are not.(p.190)
As the age of marriage rises, the likelihood of virginity on the wedding night drops. I wonder how many American kids pledging virginity until marriage do the maths. To keep the pledge, the average American guy would have to go through all his hormone-charged teens and four-fifths of his twenties without ever having sex. Girls could be a little less patient, but they'd still have to forgo sex until twenty-five. Frankly, that's not what most people dream of while they are young, energetic and as sexy as they will ever be. (p.193)
Around a fifth of young Americans tell researchers that they have been through a ritual 'Virginity Pledge', signing a contract that declares they will not have sex until they are married. They do it at huge religious ceremonies, they do it at high school ceremonies, they do it at huge religious rallies and concerts, they do it at glitzy balls in spa hotels. The wierdest virginity pledges are signed not by the kids but their fathers, at those glitzy balls, where girls in floaty white dresses with see-through skirts slow-dance with Daddy. Before the assembled crowd, Daddy pledges 'I ...'s father, choose before God to cover my daughter as her authority and protection in the area of purity.' (Pisani p. 190)
Originally posted by calstorm
reply to post by catwhoknows
For females losing your virginity IS a big deal. It is wrapped up in emotions and that first experience especially if negative stays with you the rest of your life. Women release bonding hormones during sex, and it has been said that a lager quantity is released during your first time. Many women will attest to the fact that they have stronger emotional feelings for their fist lover than subsequent lovers even 20 or more years later.
Originally posted by SmokeyDawn
Originally posted by calstorm
reply to post by catwhoknows
For females losing your virginity IS a big deal. It is wrapped up in emotions and that first experience especially if negative stays with you the rest of your life. Women release bonding hormones during sex, and it has been said that a lager quantity is released during your first time. Many women will attest to the fact that they have stronger emotional feelings for their fist lover than subsequent lovers even 20 or more years later.
And this finding makes perfect sense with the realization over the past 30 years that their first lover is their
FATHER!
That description of those ceremonies actually made my skin crawl....can anyone say "MK-Ultra/Tinkerbell"??
Other than that I feel girls as well as boys all have a huge range of emotional attachment regarding sex, from none to fanatical, all dependent on a wide assortment of current conditions....
Originally posted by harryhaller
reply to post by halfoldman
I see your point.
The problem is this: when you have sex with someone else, there's a risk that babies will happen. planning has got nothing to do with it. It sounds like your friends are heading in the right direction, nothing wrong with it, late marriages that is.
But what we're seeing is it's ok to screw anyone, as long as you're pretending to be "in love". One over move on. But if you have a kid .... it just always ends badly.
But most of my objections about sex and marriage relate very much towards the offspring of these unions.
My 13yo daughter was asked at school if she's a virgin ... in PRIMARY school for crying out loud, by a guy. That's where this "liberal" view on sex has got us. I'm a bit unhappy about that, she told me yesterday. She has permission to break the next boy who asks nose. But this is what you get when sexuality is allowed free reign in society.