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Originally posted by riley
That is not my position at all. She does not remotely control his penis so he can choose not to have sex and choose not to risk getting her pregnant. He had complete control over his life when he unzipped his pants.
After a baby is born she is not forcing him to do anything either.. but he has a legal and moral obligation to take care of a child he sired he created. He would have known fatherhood would be a possibility when he CHOSE to have sex with her so winging about how she didn't kill his baby while it was in the womb on threat of poverty would just make him a scumbag rather than a "poor man who was controlled by a woman".
Women having the right to not be bullied into abortion or giving birth is NOT controlling men.
What i'm getting at here, is if one gender has a say in all of this, then why call it pro choice?
Originally posted by technical difficulties
Have some sort of trial for this sort of thing. Is it wrong for men to force women into having children? Yes. Is it wrong for women to have children to force the man to pay child support? Yes. What i'm getting at here, is if one gender has a say in all of this, then why call it pro choice?
Originally posted by jeanvaljean
Pro-choice refers to the right of a woman to choose whether to keep the baby or not. It does not refer to the right of a man to choose to be a father or not.
Equal say in the matter is only possible if both parties agree to a specific course of action. If one partner wants to keep the child and the other does not, only final say is possible. No matter how many loops of reasoning one goes through, if the man has the final say, it always comes down to the woman losing ownership of her own body to the man the moment she gets pregnant. This is not acceptable.
Originally posted by Dark Ghost
Thanks for clearing that up. So Pro-Choice is actually a Feminist ideal where women are given full power to decide whether they want to raise a child or not.
Originally posted by FullMechaPilot!
Dudes shouldn't whinge about this, I'm a guy myself, and I respect, fundamentally, the 'my house my rules' doctrine. It's a terrible analogy, but if you help paint the walls in someone else's house, it should still be the choice of the owner of the house whether or not to keep the colour, right?
Plus, dudes don't really do much in the whole construction process, just provide half the blueprints. (Sorry 'bout all the metaphors, lol)
Originally posted by whatwasthat
reply to post by maria_stardust
The individual decision to carry a new lift to full term is what we hold as the right of the soon to be born person. The process once started can not be reversed. Exceptions are tolerated but it is asking too much for this to be a right of choice that should be funded by the society as a whole.
Originally posted by riley
As we have said.. it's not whether to raise a child but whether to carry a pregnancy to term and give birth to it. Ccustody is a seperate issue once the baby is born as it's no longer in her body. You seemed to completely skip the pregnancy part and move straight onto the child rearing part like what a woman has to go though to have a baby is a trivial side issue. If a baby was something that could be gestated and born by both sexes equally then men would have equal say in the final decision. If you went a planted a crop on someone else's farm would you expect them to hand over ownership till it's grown? Getting a woman pregnant is not like marking territory. She might like the new plants or she might want them gone off her property.
..and it's not just a feminist/femnazi ideal not to be reduced to being an incubator. Slavery is illegal for both sexes and having ownership over what happens with your own body is basic a human right. If you want final say over what a woman does with her body you want ownership over it.. there is no inbetween.
Originally posted by FullMechaPilot!
Dudes shouldn't whinge about this, I'm a guy myself, and I respect, fundamentally, the 'my house my rules' doctrine. It's a terrible analogy, but if you help paint the walls in someone else's house, it should still be the choice of the owner of the house whether or not to keep the colour, right?
Plus, dudes don't really do much in the whole construction process, just provide half the blueprints. (Sorry 'bout all the metaphors, lol)
Originally posted by Dark Ghost
Remember how you said men should be more careful about having sex because it might lead to pregnancy? Shouldn't women be more careful about deciding whether to keep a foetus or not?
If she does not have the financial and emotional resources to nurture and raise a child, is it not irresponsible for her to give birth? Basically you want the mother to have the "final" say based on the fact that she is one who spends ~9 months in labour. But once she gives birth, THEN you want "equal" rights including financial support.
Anybody notice the following dilemma:
1) Men must be careful who they have sex with because sex can lead to pregnancy.
2) Women need not worry about maintaining a pregnancy. The upbringing and raising of a child is a separate issue.