I've been having this thought in my head for a while now. Almost everybody around me tells me that I'm right, but I can't always trust those who
Here's the thing: I've never been in a relationship with noone, mainly because I come out of the closet more than a year ago, and my life before
that was loveless because I wanted it that way. I'm working on a gay bar for a year now, but I haven't been with anyone in a sexual way (just a
couple of kisses) because I found them all very... direct in their approach.
A couple of months ago this guy came along and started working there. I really liked him at first, not just physically but I thought that this was a
very serious guy and really down to earth. Apparently I liked him too. Anyway, after many nights he asked me if I wanted to go have breakfast when we
leave work. We went to a coffee and started talking. We talked almost for 2 hours, and while it was ok, we never stepped any personal ground, we just
talked about work.
Then he asked me to go for a walk, and we went. Not 10 minutes later, we were talking and out of the blue he asked me if I wanted to go to an hotel.
It was like this huge bomb dropping, I never saw it coming. First of all, because the night before he told a friend of mine that I liked him and that
he wanted to take things slowly. Then because in any moment the guy showed any sign of "I like you", he didn't even kissed me, not even grab my
Anyway, I said no, he said "k" and I went home and we never talked about that again.
Two of my gay friends told me that I should of said yes. Many of my straight friends told me that I did good by saying no. I have no idea what to
believe. Am I too old-fashioned? I mean, is not like I'm saying "no sex until marriage!", is just that for me sex is the most intimate act, and
I'm a very closed person. So is not like a just want to go ahead and sleep with every guy I run into. On the other hand, anyone can pull the "you
think that way because you're a virgin" card on me, because many did, and I don't know how right they are. So I need some feedback on this.
BTW, want to hear something funny? I payed for the breakfast HE invited me to! So it wasn't my greatest day of my life, lol.