Question: How Many Women Have Secret Sex Partners, Just Wondered

Interesting thread! Very telling how when asking a straight question many try to make a personal attack on you rather than simply answer. You’re asking about statistics, not saying that women are baaaad muhahah!

Personally I think true monogamy is a rare commodity - far rarer than these believers know. Imho most guys (and girls) that pontificate on why they’re relationship works, or yours doesn’t simply hasn’t figured out that there’s something afoot.

It might be fleeting, might be long term, might be with one or with many, but at some point someone, male or female will play away.

With temptation and opportunity being key to this it surely stands to reason that female examples of infidelity will be more numerous, since guys are usually less picky.

a reply to: Grenade

Finally, someone mentions the actual relationship. I have talked to a lot of women and if they are unhappy in their relationship, they will either seek it out or it lands in their lap. This could be anything from they feel ignored to sex sucks, or they no longer love their husband/boyfriend. Then there are the woman who just don't care and seek outsex regardless of how great their relationship. Those are the vindictive type. I have also met males who are sluts, too. My husband knows and works with a guy who will sleep with anyone regardless of what they look like. I think he has low self esteem, as my husband says he gets negative and down a lot. He equates casual sex with love.

a reply to: AutomateThis1v2

I am a woman and agree about taking care of your husband or boyfriend. Yes, men will cheat due to lack of intimacy or sex. Most women when they get cheated will admit that they haven't had sex in awhile. There's the problem, lack of sex. Yes, it sounds sexist, but men are sexual creatures, and they enjoy it a lot. Youtake that away from them and they will stray, not all but most do and will. Men like intimacy as much as women do, and most men don't get much out of wanking it off. My stance is regardless of gender, when you aren't being intimate with your loved one, and find out that they cheat on you it's because tgere is no sex or any type intimacy in that relationship, if they get to that point instead of cheating maybe they should sit down like adukts and discuss why they are not into sex and how they can solve the problem.

a reply to: cre8chaos

Men are typically with women for sex, women are with men for financial security and protection. If the sex isn't good enough, they'll go outside the relationship with little compunction.

Jaden

a reply to: Grenade
haha that is a valid and genius concern, yes indeed that should be taken into account statistically.

Also, better does not mean more practiced. So we now also have to include that factor too. Less practiced but better, is it talent or something else and what else does influence it. Where are the trigger levels for acceptance when to lie in both genders?

That should give us a more precise answer to this.

Wait so no one is going to fess up, that they have secret lovers, is it actually a rare situation?

I think women who do this, have female friends who are like-minded, so they can brag about their adventures with each other. So in such situations, it can seem like a common thing, when all these women are bragging about their promiscuity together!!

Anyways, to reiterate what I said earlier, women have a secret power that men don't have: Women can often make a man sleep with them, if they want to, they can kind of hypnotize men, and so they can make it to happen. Men will buckle at the knees and comply.






Plus I think once a woman creates a sexual connection, then the guy will figure that he might as well embrace it. For example, a guy might not think of smashing his friend's girlfriend. But once they are alone, and the girl suddenly grabs him... then they've already crossed the line, so the guy will probably just start regularly smashing, since she already put them in the wrong territory.







Also this could play on a guy's insecurities because if a woman is just collecting different sex partners like this, for several years, then she will get all these different flavors and choices, which her poor boyfriend can not cover every single thing.

For example, there might be one ex-boyfriend with a very big body, and bigger than her boyfriend's body, so such a woman might visit her ex-boyfriend, occasionally, for her entire life.

It's really an amazing lifestyle that women could collect a lifetime of lovers like this. I think it's much more of a female's choice of a lifestyle, more than most guys can really choose for themselves, if they wanted to, lol.

I just think honesty is what matters. People should just be honest with their dating partners, whether or not they are smashing other disgusting men's bodies, that's all.

Men can subordinate women with equal ease James.

If you lead the right way they will follow.

a reply to: JamesChessman

originally posted by: starlahazelnut
...if they get to that point instead of cheating maybe they should sit down like adults and discuss why they are not into sex and how they can solve the problem.

Maybe that's why marriages used to last longer; mental age has dropped with each generation so that now there're very few adults walking the earth.

originally posted by: ThatDamnDuckAgain
a reply to: JamesChessman

Well there's definitely a different dynamic for each gender though. Basically women have a secret power that they can bang any man that they want to.

Men don't have this luxury, lol.

Think about what you imply with this. This implies that any women, regardless of her character or looks would be "banged" because the men don't care other than having sex.

Think about it.

Women sleep with who they want.
Men sleep with who they can.


Also,

"Only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provide something." Chris Rock

originally posted by: JamesChessman
Wait so no one is going to fess up, that they have secret lovers, is it actually a rare situation?

You have to laugh! We'll talk about the darkest of doom porn sh!t on ATS, apparently without fear of who might be eves dropping on your anti-tptb opinions. But fess up to something on the side? No effing way, who knows who might be listening

originally posted by: coop039
Women sleep with who they want.
Men sleep with who they can.

And that's the bottom line.

a reply to: coop039

Also,

"Only women, children, and dogs are loved unconditionally. A man is only loved under the condition that he provide something." Chris Rock

Most false statement I've ever read.
You think women are loved unconditionally 😂🤣😂😅😆🤣😂

You know what, I thought there was some kind of common saying about the topic, but I have not been able to find it.

Something along the lines of:

"Every woman has at least one secret # buddy."

Or:

"Every woman has at least one secret sex partner."





...Isn't there some type of common saying, like this?!

I don't seem able to find it at the moment lol.

a reply to: JamesChessman

The very fact that there is no saying is highly suspicious

a reply to: JamesChessman


To me this is sort of like the idea that some specific people seem to have that being rich, successful, powerful or of a specific political leaning automatically makes you corrupt vs people that are not. None of that is true nor is it true that women are more likely to have a "secret sex partner" then men are.

If you truly believe that gender plays some role in that equation then nothing anyone is going to say about this will change your opinion. Still cheaters will cheat regardless of if they are men or women and I know just as many of each that have been cheated on or have been the cheater.

a reply to: opethPA

^There are gender differences of how sexuality works.



Women are much more able to initiate intimacy, with whoever they want.



Men are more easily manipulated by women.





We can't just be in denial that there are real differences.






...However, actual DATING relationships is a complex behavior so yes, it boils down to an individual's morals and character etc.

originally posted by: McGinty
a reply to: JamesChessman

The very fact that there is no saying is highly suspicious

Hee hee. But do you know what phrase or saying, that I seem to be vaguely remembering?

The terms are such general words that I can't really find it.

Doesn't this ring a bell for anyone? Isn't there some kind of saying or phrase about this?

Some belong in hotels, and others nice warm homes.

MGTOW lacks any really problem solving, and just seems more about motivating one just to simply stay single. Nothing wrong with that, but nature calling or Satan little bit of continious prick, but like Buddha said, desires of the flesh are inexhaustible.

You should look up the Cult of Black Phillip, gets into the nature of woman so well, you would never look at your own mother or any member of your immediate family, and Virgin Mary statue the same way again. Warning it might be a little open about things

Just cut her off an say hello, a year or two.later to see how they are doing, then cut off completely.

a reply to: starlahazelnut

I'm a sucker for a pretty face, you could be an absolute cow but if you're cute to look at then i can't resist. No issues with body shape or personality if you're pretty, one of my ex girlfriends looked like an angel from 6 inches away, i could stare at her all night as creepy as that sounds. A total bitch but my God was she beautiful.