A few months ago, I read an article on from a blog site entitled, "Where is the Love in R & B?" They were discussing the downturn in R & B music of
today and the causes of why it is very different from the soulful music of yesterday. No longer do these types of artist woo a woman, praise her man,
or discuss the beauty in courtship. Today, it is "let's meet at the telly 'cuz you know what it is"....
I grew up in the late 70's, early 80's and can disctinctfully remember the joys of waking up to mom and dad's 'Saturday morning clean up' music. We
belted out to The Whispers, The Ojays, Chaka Kahn, Michael McDonald... this was the kind of music that you could hear at cook-outs and holidays, and
the 'old folks' were not inclined to cover their ears as they heard about "dropping that thang down low" and Ying Yang Twins' "Wait till you see my
----". Music was about being happy, in love, and for the most part it celebrated the excitement in monogamous relationships...
Then the 90's crept in. While music was not as bad as it is today, you could tell there ws something different in the air. Suddenly, you started to
hear about "knocking boots" and women taking other womens' men. The art of dating and being in love seemed to slowly disappear by the decade's
2000's came and the love in R & B is all but gone. Radio stations sensored lyrics less and less. Both men and women seemed to glorify promiscuity
and marriage became a complete joke. Back in the day, you could literally FEEL the artists' music; they sang genuinely from the heart. What happened?
Where is the Love?
Politically and socially, blacks began to migrate from their conservative values and embraced feminism and liberal ideologies around the late 60's,
early 70's. Evident in the music, artist who reigned in the "good ole days " were reared in 2 parent homes. They saw their fathers talk sweetly to
their mothers, and watched their mothers praise their fathers. Love and marriage were becoming obsolete. Modern R 7 B artists (most, not all) came
from an era of single motherhood, where they saw their mothers shamed their fathers and vowed they were 'independent', and their fathers were mostly
absent and had an onslaught of "baby mommas".
Here are some excerpts of the disappearance of love:
"LOVE'S HOLIDAY" - Earth, Wind, and Fire
Would you mind, if I touched if I kissed, if I held you tight, in the morning light?
Woud you mind, if I said how I feel tenderly tonight?
Again, cause I, never ever, felt this way in my heart before, ohh
Love, has found a way, in my heart tonight.
"Pony" - Genuine
I'm just a bachelor, looking for a partner, someone who knows how to ride, without even falling off...
If you're horny, let's do it. Ride it, my pony.
My saddle's waiting, come and jump on it.
"A Night to Remember" - Shalamar
When you love someone it's natural not demanding
And that's one thing I'm proud to say I found in you
I'm so glad we've reached an understanding
Now I know my heart is safe with you, ooh
So now my love to you, baby, I surrender
"Love More" -Chris Brown, Nicki Minaj
We do it like rock stars, sexin in my hotel room, we so loud
Higher than a smoke cloud....
When you back it up, it really drives me crazy...
'Til we get it right, we gon (blank) some mo'
[Nicki Minaj] On the low I used to holla at his homie...
(Blank) it now, I'm bout to ride him like a pony
Ok thug prolly, ...and pop molly
Could I be your wife, nah we could bang tho.
As Roberta Flack and Donnie Hathaway asked:
WHERE IS THE LOVE?
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