reply to post by onequestion
I applaud you, whatever your belief, for questioning yourself and having the integrity to look deeper at what you perceive may be inappropriate
prejudices. It says a lot about you as a person. Bravo.
I have had every opportunity in life although I grew up very poor---good grades, scholarship, got into West Point, didn't go, had my school paid for,
got into medical school, dropped out and never went back along with other advantages. I'm fairly healthy despite 21 years in the military, and have
all my hair in my 40s.
I recently was told by a relative, "you had the world at your fingertips, what happened?" I am currently living in my boyhood home helping take
care of my elderly parents with a loving dog and two cats. Real sexy
However, I've come to realize all those "opportunities and dreams" I had were not mine. They fit me about as well as a sofa cover would have. I
look at my friends on facebook that post every little thing about their lives "heading to little Johnny's karate tournament after a long day of
shopping, my feet hurt, and I'm grumpy lol! " and I call them "formula People". Kind of shoved in the tube of a surface life that is about how
you look, and what you own. Is that a tad judgemental? A bit, I suppose. But I sometimes feel sorry for some of them that they haven't experienced
some of the tragedies that make me very cognizant of the small and big things that matter, at least in my view.
My ex owns a real estate office, and although she was a good egg, it was all about the car you drove, and what social engagement you were seen at.
Again, that was not my dream.
I don't own a whole lot, (well, lots of nice shoes) but I have a lifetime of people that love me, consider me a loyal friend, and have my back. My
dog bays when he sees me, and I make people laugh as much as possible. By a lot of measures that's not a lot, but I thank my God everyday I'm not a
slave to the things that I "own" or my 401K. I don't worry much about the future, rather at middle age I'm excited I'm finally finding my own
way, and not the way I was told to go by rules I didn't make up or vote on.
Just my 2 cents. Keep on keeping on. I appreciate your introspection.