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droid56
Okay. Please delete the original post. Sorry for the original post. Just thinking out loud.
droid56
My sister drives old people to places as a voluntary activity. I said to her that I thought most old people were to different degrees not happy.
I should have said to my sister that the old people who didn't sound unhappy were actually unhappy but they didn't want to sound like neurotic whingers.
Why do I think most really old people are unhappy? They are dying. Their dreams are gone. I can relate as a fairly old person. Advanced aging, chronic pain and disability, and then dying in a place other than your home is not a happy topic.
Better awaits us, I hope.
Kangaruex4Ewe
I guess the key would be TO NOT focus on death, but to focus on what life remains for you to experience.
You can choose to be old, grumpy, bitter, and full of regrets or you can choose to look forward to each new day as a new experience. Some people can live with the decisions they made, the memories they have, the way they spent their hours and days and some can not. But ALL CHOOSE the way they see things and the way they take on each new day.
Most older people I know are happy. They have raised their children and sent them out into the great big world, they have (mostly) finished working for a wage and can now do some of the things they could not do when children were underfoot and they had a clock to punch.
It's all about perception. Most unhappy elderly people were also unhappy NON elderly people... at least in my experience. That's got to say something.edit on 1/15/2014 by Kangaruex4Ewe because: (no reason given)
droid56
My sister drives old people to places as a voluntary activity. I said to her that I thought most old people were to different degrees not happy. I should have said to my sister that the old people who didn't sound unhappy were actually unhappy but they didn't want to sound like neurotic whingers.