LONG story short, I have not dated or kissed or anything since 2002 by my own choice. I'm female, gonna be 41 in March and I just got plumb out sick
and tired of guys and their 'get in, get off and get lost' attitude. I chose to take a celibate life style and held to it since 2002. Totally held
I finally met that special someone. He is definitely wonderful, is in to me for me, we have the world in common and we also work together. We bonded
tightly over our christmas break and we're taking things slow but at a good pace which is comfy for both of us. We have total trust, full
communication, we give to each other without expecting a thing in return, we always... oh it's just amazing.
He was working night shift with me (7:15pm but we'd get there around 6pm and leave anywhere from 5am and 9am). Friday he told me he had bad news and
said he was going to go onto days. Days here start at 6am and get out at 4pm but he'd no doubt stay til 6pm.
It's a new ship - we're not even really 'official' yet (ie, he hasn't done the whole 'will you be my girl' thing or however it's done) but we
may as well be. I dont want to go into every detail of what we've shared together but just trust when I say we may as well be official.
My concern is: we get to see each other on Sat morn when I get home until Sun night when he has to get to sleep. Won't see each other all week unless
he comes to my home (he lives two doors down and we are less than 7 min drive from work) for his lunch at 10:30 am for 45 min.
Has anyone on here worked different/opposite shifts and if so, what do you do to keep the ship moving forward? I know absense makes the heart grow
fonder and I've always been fine with him needing his 'me time' as I need it too. I think I'm just in the 'oh lordie, nooooo' frame of mind
because we truly deeply bonded over xmas break and we're still in the 'it's new, fresh, exciting' aspect of it all. I know he's going to do what
he can to see me even if it means staying over at work an extra hour or so but that cuts into his sleep time. Though he lives 2 doors down, he usually
sleeps here a few nights a week(and no, when I said we're moving slow, I mean it; nothing extremely intimate has happened. For now we are super happy
with just being close - holding hands is breathtaking; I love this stage of a new relationship as it forms) . He'll be sleeping here during the
nights now and then while I'm at work. Hey, I can totally handle my pillows with his scent, okay?
Tips/tricks on how to keep the fires going would be SO appreciated. I'm kind of hoping he hates the day shift and comes back to the night. You just
can't get a thing done during the day because everything is closed when you first wake up and when you get off work. Also he has been a night shift
worker his entire life (he's 35) and just can't do morning time. Both our circadean rhythms are full nights. I pray so hard he'll come back in a
week or two. besides, he's losing 75c an hour to go to days. If anything, dear readers, keep the fingers crossed for this to happen.