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such a heavy workload, but still very sizable. Because of ths, she suggested we step back for the seriousness of the relationship to concetrate on the studies for a few months...
... which seemed sensible.
reply to post by akushla99
Good advice, cheaters always have some rationale or excuse in their minds that make what they did seem 'okay' to them, and they will try and rope you into this world view, because if they can convince the person they cheated on that it was okay, then they'll feel really fine about it.
They'll probably feel fine about it anyway. But at least you can avoid getting roped into helping them feel better about what they did.
Zero contact is the way to go.
First it has to be said you were not cheated on. She already had told you she wanted to scale back the relationship. She may not have been intellectually honest about the situation, but none the less it was you that failed to get an updated version of the defined boundaries. I am not saying you don't feel like it is a cheating situation, it probably feels that way and i am sure it is humiliating and hurtful but the writing was on the wall and you ignored it. Your heart is a little broken now but you will get over it, in the meantime focus on your studies and find some girls to date. Best of luck.
Thanks for the replies. It's good to know that I am not alone. Obviously, at my age I have been through similar situations before, so I am not being unrealistic about it. I do know that it's just going to take time to get over it and move on. I just wish my stomach didn't get so physical about it!!
I think this was just somewhere to get it off my chest as much as anything else.