reply to post by SadistNocturne
I disagree. Within the context that I have described throughout this thread is that this type of activity that I have been associated with was under
the complete understanding that it was between my husband and I.
That is a contractual agreement albeit a verbal one. There is civil law that would protect individuals under these circumstances. However a breach
of this contract walked through the civil court system would never make me whole again which is the purpose of contract law. The damage would be
I don't think you are considering all of the different circumstances in which such an event could occur.
edit on 2-10-2013 by GrantedBail
because: (no reason given)
First of all, sorry about not agreeing with you. I wasn't aware this was an "I agree" thread.
Second, I *personally* think you trusted someone, and they betrayed your trust. Happens every single day. I've had my trust betrayed NUMEROUS
times, some times gravely seriously. Am I out seeking legal ramifications? A lawsuit? A new law?
My daughters will be raised, that in this digital age, if there is something you want to do privately, you DO IT PRIVATELY. Not in any way shape or
form that could be copied digitally. If it's copied digitally, it is as good as gone around the world and back. I will also inform them of the fact
that it is also likely that even *I* might end up seeing photos or videos. I don't think the average child would want that.
I genuinely feel bad that this happened to you. I think the guy who did this to you is a complete ass.
But, *I* personally do not feel he broke the law. If you do, then take him to court. If you feel that civil court cannot "make you whole", perhaps
you should consider what being "made whole" is to you.
Is it financial damage awards? What price would make you feel better?
Is it public shame and humiliation? Really? How would you propose going about this?
Is it jailtime? Really? What do *you* think is an appropriate amount of time to spend in jail for this?
If these things seem to be too much, or if you can't quite come to an answer in your own mind on the matter, perhaps you should try to come to some
form of peace with the situation. Live and learn, and never, ever do something like this again.
Now, obviously this is not the same as a picture of your naked flesh, but I once saw a friend who genuinely needed help. His car broke down, and he
was not quite able to afford a rental. My family had an additional vehicle, my prized 1999 Pontiac Firebird, candy apple red. I said, you can use my
car. Keep it full of gas, and return it full of gas. Use it as long as you need it.
Three months went by, and he's not returning phone calls, I start hearing a few rumors, etc. I contacted him several ways and made it clear that if
my car was not returned by X date, that I would be contacting the police. X date came and went, he did not return the car.
I called the police. I explained the situation. The officer asked me if I voluntarily gave him the keys, and I said yes. He said then it was a
civil matter, and there was absolutely nothing the police department could do to help.
I consulted an attorney, to the tune of $450, and was informed that civil court could not necessarily force him to return my car, or reimburse me for
the cost of the car. They could award a judgement against him, but, if he couldn't pay or wouldn't return the vehicle, there was only *so* much
that could be done. I was advised to try to talk to my friend and do what it took to get him to return the vehicle voluntarily.
Good news, I eventually got my prized 1999 Pontiac Firebird back. A few months later, I got about $500 worth of parking tickets in the mail, just
because I'm a nice guy.
Do you know what I learned from this?
You have to be AWFULLY certain you can trust someone. And if they end up untrustworthy, there is almost nothing you can do.