posted on Nov, 13 2004 @ 06:43 AM
oh, yes, it is much better to go back to the old ways of doing things, the men works, the wife stays home with the kids, the men have all the
economic, legal power in the world, and the women seem to be the sacrificial lamb in every disagreement between the two.....force to obey the husband
IN ALL THINGS....just like the bible perscribes.
Meanwhile, when you take a real close look at society....
Children, and parenting seem to have little value. Their education seems less valued than the golfcourses and all the other crap that our gov'ts
decide to pay for while every year we are allowed to vote as to weather or not we want to lay off our kid's teachers, reduce the sprots programs,
ect. ect. why aren't we voting on the golf courses and other crap? and well, many stay at home moms aren't rewarded in much of any way
financiallly or socially.
Women have been forced to reduce the amount of time that they spend on household duties when they entered the workforce, but the men haven't
increased their time devouted to such things as dishes, cooking, vacuuming, ect. by much at all. Things that used to by done by the women are now
being left undone....where's the man, eager to pick up half of this load for the women?
And, well, companies and big corporations would now prefer to go everseas where they can profit more, by paying workers less....they don't want to
have to pay parents enough to support these children. And well, there is still the attitude embedded into some men's minds that women don;t reallly
need to make that much, after all the man has a family to support, and well, she has a man supporting her, or at least she should have!!
And, well, let's look at the great system that is put into place to make the parents pay child support, and the family court system that decides
which of the parents should get the kids, and well, how the system as a whole can in fact run against any man who might happen to gain custody of the
Back about a decade ago, the child support system was full of loopholes that enabled parents to skate free sometimes, and in others, well, the records
that we sent to the parents, were inadequate. Meaning that if you were having money garnished from your paycheck, you didn't recieve records as to
just how much was taken out sent to you on a regular basis. Thus, you had no easy way to determine if that money was actually making it to the right
destination. The one who had custody of that child did though. But, well, after messy divorces, they usuallly aint too talkative with each other.
There's alot of "dadbeat dads" who have paid in other words. The money has been shuttled off to some unknown destiny. Then when it is discovered,
well, they'll go through and blame everyone but the system....usually it's the business that did the payroll that got the blame. Is it honest
mistakes, or is that money being scuttled off somewhere to be used as for some secret military manuevering or what...who knows.
But, well, seems to me that a society that really values kids would have some better way to ensure that the parents of these kids are held accoutable
for supporting them.
And, well, why is it always the women who gets them.....if not because our society is geared so that the men usually have more earning power, and
well, so there is more money that way to "lose" in that system. and why isn't there some sort of pressure on the non-custodial parent to stay in
the same region as the child, and take charge of the child on a daily basis and thus, allow the wife the time to find a job, and work it. Since,
well, now, we have childcare costs higher that what she could make anyways. Heck, most of the men couldn't do it, which leads me to the problems
that arise when the men get custody...There is finacial assistance to help low income parents with child care....but the child care costs still take a
pretty big chunk out of the not so low income of the working man leaving him without enough to support them. And, well, what about child support for
them? The gov't will look to make sure that the mother is making enough to at least tide her over before they will take anything from her, thus if
he recieves support from her, it won't be as much as if she was getting support from him. Thus, the idea that it is the women who should get custody
is still pretty much prevalent.
Women were never fully liberated....they were just handed an offer from the government..."let us be your lord instead of your husband." Thus, they
were still shackled with what is pretty much a financially unrewarded occupation---raising the kids----which is to be quite honest more than a full
time job. Meanwhile the men really didn't make out so badly. NOw, instead of having to fully support their family, they could just partially
support them, have part of their paycheck taken, but never enough so that his income didn't provide for a half way decent lifestyle for him. And,
well, he only had to worry about the kids once a week!!
How about instead of just going back to the old way of doing things and making women the sacrificial lamb again, we go back and liberate her the right
ways. Equallly distribute the responsibilities of raising those kids between the two parents instead of insisting that they both adhere to the old
stereotypes of the past. And, then as an extra bonus, how about if we start reinforcing the idea that they should be meeting those responsibilities
by WORK...either employment, or self employment which requires informing those employers that they really need to start paying a wage that will take
care of a family.