posted on Apr, 2 2015 @ 09:15 PM
a reply to:
goou111
I have a friend with a 15 year old son that due to his size and height, looks like he is in his twentys. My friend re-married and her new husband is
not perfect, but he tries to treat her son the say as he treats his children, her son calls him Dad, and they seem to get along well.
Her son is diabetic and he is totally noncompliant, almost violently noncompliant. I have sat with him on numerous occasions and explained to him the
sceintific rationale of his condition, the risks, and possible outcomes, including loss of his ability to get and erection, blindness, kidney failure,
with a life time on dialysis, and progressive amputations. I thought the brutal truth would be effective in encouraging his complainace. It didn't.
His mother talks and talks. She is constantly reinforcing the need for his complaince. His step-father tries to talk to him, with no better
results.
She called me on Monday in tears, asking for help because she had to remove him from school because of his grossly elevated blood sugar levels. The
doctor is starting to show signs of frustration, and has warned her that he is going to drop him from his service if he continues to be noncompliant.
I told her in front of him that she needs to come to grips with the fact that she is most likely going to be burying her son within a few years.
He just doesn't care because he is convinced nothing is going to happen to him. He thinks he knows more than anyone else. We are all stupid, and we
just don't get it. According to him. I thought at first that this kid is just a spoiled brat and my friend is going to have to use tough love if she
wants to save his life, but I was a bit surpraised when I started paying attention to the attitude and behavior of his peers. Having to visit the
school a couple of times and being able to observe the children, in school, away from their parents; it was surprising to me what these children say,
how they behave, and the total lack of respect for everyone, including themselves.
This behavior seems to have become accepted as normal, and I don't see no attempts being made to correct it. Not by the school and not by the
parents. Donor organs are very difficult to come by. Do you give this organ to a child that is going to make the rare and beautiful sacrifice of an
organ a wasted effort, or do you give it to someone that is going to do everything to try to make the transplant work?