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posted on Mar, 15 2013 @ 01:03 AM
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Dear ATS,

The last decade has been very challenging for me. All my elders that were close died (and there were many), many friends also dies. My wife left me for her hiking partner after 24 years together, I was told that my physical condition should have killed me way to many times and I lost everything I worked over 50 years for. This is not in any way a plea for sympathy, I assure you I am so much better now and this is about something else.

After my wife left me, my children convinced me to date again and I did. The first woman I dated, I dated for about a year (travel restricted that year to 13 dates), we got to see each other about once a month. A very nice, educated, intelligent, attractive and well mannered lady just a few years older than me.

One night we were returning from dinner at a nice restaurant. I was dropping her off at her condo. We were talking as I was driving and she asked something about my past and I told her how I had sort of lost it when my life had become unbearable. I said everyone has to hit their wall to know their limits and that those times are when you find out who your true friends are. She was Ukrainian and an executive with a major corporation. She said that what I said was correct and we find out just how few people are true friends. I had to correct her. When my life turned to absolute hell, I found out just how many friends I had and it was a lot.

Everyone of my friends offered me a free place to stay during my divorce, every loving one of them. My siblings would have taken me in an taken of me, multiple cousins offered and my friends offered. I actually lived with one of my friends for six months by the beach. A couple of business associates would have taken care of me and expected nothing in return. She was wrong, the Ukranian, she was wrong.

I love my siblings and know that we would always care for one another. We grew up together and have lots of history and when I was caring for my father while he was dying, they never once questioned my choices and I am the baby of the family. The last two years have been equally emotionally challenging, more deaths and more loss. The difference is that I didn't fall this time, because I survived my personal hell a few years back, the problems this time were much easier to deal with, same problems; but, I got stronger.

Here is the funny thing, when I was really down and it looked like I would not make it, my friends protected, helped me and offered and assistance needed and meant it. At the time I was losing it and they stood by me. My friends saw me falter and were not going to let anyone or anything take me out, they kept me going and trusted that I could take care of any external threats if I just knew they were behind me and they were right.

During my life I always prided myself on having done it all by myself and not relying on others, one against the world. I helped everyone and never wanted anything back, that was pride. When I fell and hit my wall, I never asked for help, they insisted upon helping me and refused to listen to me say how I was okay when they knew I was at deaths door and they would have no part of it.. I have the greatest friends a man could ever hope for. Turned out that my friends were my friends, not because of how I had helped them in the past as I have helped many; but, they were my friends because they appreciated me.

If you want good friends, be what you want from them. I am pretty simple, I will not be true friends (we can be friendly) with anyone who is dishonest or who is selfish. I have friends that are not Christians, that is not a requirement. My friends have to be loyal to their family and friends, they have to care about others, heck, they have to care about people and doing the right thing even if we disagree over what the right thing is. They have to be people that I respect for some reason.

We develop relationships and we choose who we call friend. The criteria that we use in choosing friends determines the quality of friends we have around us. The way in which we deal with others determines who is willing to be around us and for what reasons. Just felt a need to post this. Peace.




posted on Mar, 15 2013 @ 01:35 AM
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If you remember, we had an exchange of opinions about a month back. This is only why I post here.

We share an arts background, which is why I'm surprised, that you are surprised about the Brotherhood of Man.



Sorry. Had too.

Seriously, people are good, but friends make a life worth it. Possibly children too, there I am as of yet to learn (so as I know).



posted on Mar, 15 2013 @ 01:48 AM
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Dear randomtangentsrme,

I do remember you, you inspired me to consider working on the stage again, well you and a young musician. As for your video, it is perfect and made me laugh, I have never actually worked that play; but, loved the movie and wanted to work it. Just in case anyone is wondering, I am truly feeling grateful for my friends and am not down in any way. I feel blessed that I had the chance to remember and appreciate how grateful I am for them. I am in a great spot.

As for you, after our initial conversation, I got tickets to see another young performer, I am going to see Miss Jackie Evancho and am looking forward to it very much. I don't know how to imbed so I will just link.

YouTube - A Time For Us - Jackie Evancho

Our conversation got me looking at what I like more, I love the theater. I loved being behind the scenes and I loved hearing the practices and watching the shows come together. People love to work for me, I have very little turnover. That came from being a stage manager, trusting one another, knowing that we each had a role and could do it. I had forgotten how much you have to rely on one another on a live stage. I consider this just as on topic as what I wrote in my OP. If anyone fails, the show can fail, we have to work together for a common purpose and we have to love overcoming the challenges together. Friendship is what I miss from working shows. Peace and so nice to communicate with you again.



posted on Mar, 15 2013 @ 02:13 AM
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Amen Brother (Or sister?). Regardless, I inspire no one.
I'm very happy to have reunited you with an old love (if I may make the claim).
Oh and I'm so jealous of you going.
Back at you:
Young Ms. Evancho, performing my favorite christian song:


Isn't it awesome to work with a team working for the same goal, be it a show or your own success.



posted on Mar, 15 2013 @ 02:32 AM
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Dear randomtangentsrme,

Oh my, I am a man. LOL. And you should be jealous, I am jealous of myself. I cannot tell you how seeing Miss Evancho is going to be the one thing I do for myself this year. It is how I am using tax return. I will easily spend over a thousand dollars on this trip. LOL. For the past 30 years, I have always tried to spend money on art. Last year, I commissioned an art piece, after paying all my bills, it was the one thing I did for myself. It changed the artists life. It was not my intent to change his life. I wanted to see what he could produce.

I absolutely love watching talent grow. That is the purest of loves, to want to see everyone improve and our young Miss Evancho has. There are few things that can possibly be more fulfilling that helping young talent emerge.



posted on Mar, 15 2013 @ 02:35 AM
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Sometimes,life gets in the way of being a true friend,and with that,I apologize.
It is hard,sometimes to connect on here,ATS,as it is in real life.
Just words on a page versus a face.
Know what I mean?
But in my real life,I don't have many friends anymore.I have my family.

I am so glad you have your friends and those that care about you.
I would hope that I would have the same.
Take care,buddy,I will speak with you soon.

Peace,
Kevin



posted on Mar, 15 2013 @ 02:37 AM
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Dear randomtangetsrme,

She also sang the Lords Prayer, it is amazing.

YouTube - Jackie Evancho - The Lord's Prayer - Inspirational HD



posted on Mar, 15 2013 @ 02:59 AM
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And I thank you. I couldn't think of a better send off to the evening.
I am not a Webber fan but for you sir, I will share optimistic lyrics:






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