What do they teach in schools? Why would someone react like this?, page 1

Okay, for one, you've really got a problem with females, but I guess you know that. Perhaps you had an overbearing mother..? I always find that a curious situation, since I grew up with a very submissive mother who worshipped men and male attributes, but my real father, who I got to know later in life, came from a family of powerful women, and he is dominated by his wife. I find it extremely interesting to watch, perhaps like you find LED's ?

What reminds me off all this personal anecdote in yours, is the way my father, (and my brother who was raised by him) are extremely passive-aggressive. They never ever express their irritation or anger clearly, and they never ever acknowledge it, to themselves, or anyone else. They really don't see their aggressive acts.

Example- my father would repeatedly bring roses to his wife, though she was terribly allergic to them and would fall into serious asthma crisis. He would just happen to do this every time she had gotten upset with him or they'd had a disagreement. EACH time he claimed he didn't know she'd have this reaction.

I am aware that amongst men, the direct eye contact is a common rite in which they size each other up in a few seconds- there is alwas the quick judgement -is this guy a superior or a inferior? Is he bigger/stronger then me? Does he have more money? Possibly more mates? It is slightly challenging.

But men are used to this, and expect it. For females, on the other hand, it is threatening. We know men using direct eyecontact are not comparing themselves to us, but rather, looking at us like prey. If the guy is incredibly attractive that can be exciting, but it is always tinged with a slight bit of danger-like feeling.

Using your LED, it was an extension of your eyes. It exaggerrated the effect of looking directly at someone. As you yourself said, you used it to get across "Hey, who do you think you're staring at??" -aggressively.

A guy will mot likely respond to your aggression with same, especially since you upped the stakes using a tool. Females are prey. We know most men are more strong than us and can physically subdue us. We know men have these aggressive conquering type of instincts, (that for the many of us, we don't have and have difficulty comprehending).

If you go out in nature do this same exact act to a deer, it will run in fear. That is how prey has evolved and there is good reason for it. She wasn't thinking... no, but we women learn also that sometimes thinking robs you of precious seconds to flee a threat. Many a woman has been raped becaus she decided not to act upon her gut reactions early enough.

I explain this to you because I work with horses and ofte riders. I noticed that many men hve difficulties with horses because they are not sensitive or aware of their innate aggressive instincts and behaviors which provoke and influence the horse (a prey animal). I sometimes have to help them look inside and begin by acknowledging their aggressive and hunter feelings.

You say you wouldn't hurt a fly, and I believe you. But that doesn't mean that yoy don't have an inner warrior hunter that sneaks in it's two cents all the time in subconscious ways, and everyone sees it but you!

eggitted to add- sorry about all the typos, I am using a crappy old keyboard today and am in a hurry....

edit on 4-2-2013 by Bluesma because: (no reason given)