My deepest condolences.
The loss of such a beautiful loved one is so very hard.
Bless you for having the strength to fight for his wishes and giving him peace.
My grandmother, very close to my heart and very distant by miles, passed away 2 days after my first son was born.I was physically unable to see her
before she joined Grampa. I spoke with her on the phone hours before she passed and she promised me that she would see me and my baby. Within 3 hours
of her passing I was nursing a 3 day old newborn in a dark room, when my sons head lifted up and turned and focused he cooed and I knew she had kept
her promise.( for those of you not parents, newborns just don't do that)
I have always been hesitant to post the following because it will identify me to anyone local, but here goes.
The year my second, and last child was born turned into chaos. So many crazy things happened leading up to his birth that we were already in full
stress mode as a family. My initial midwife scheduled an induction (against my wishes) and then sent me home because it wasn't going to happen during
her work hours. We had words and never saw each other again, I met the midwife who delivered my son the day after his due date.
The day he was coming home from the hospital my in-laws wanted to come visit from out of town, I asked my husband if we could have a week of peace at
home first and he conveyed my wishes. They weren't thrilled but respected us and waited. We had a tiny house with no room, so we helped arrange a
place for them to stay with a family friend. They came and spent a wonderful day and a half with me and my boys. That friday night it was getting late
and I decided to take a shower. They left for the night while I was in there, I never got say bye.
At around 10 pm my father in law came all the way back to our house from town just to return a toy that my older son had left in their car earlier in
the day. I still don't know why, but he and my husband had a really nice conversation late at night in our driveway. I stayed in bed feeding the baby.
The next day dawned beautiful and snowy, really snowy, to the tune of 2 or 3 feet and wet.
They were set to return to our house that late morning after attending to some other business in the area. As the hours rolled by, my husband was
outside shoveling snow, he came in and commented on the peace, and then asked if his parents had called. We had tried several times with no luck
through the day to contact them. At about 2 that afternoon we had a knock on the door, and there was a trooper standing there.
He sat with my husband at the table, I was 3 feet away with my back to them feeding a baby. All I heard were the words mom and accident and my heart
sank.It was so much worse than I thought.
At about 10 o'clock that morning they were entering the highway, when a semi truck with no trailer lost control on the curve. Nobody had time to
react, my father in law was killed instantly.we lost them both. I didn't even know until the medical examiners report came out that my mother in law
was alive in the hospital 10 minutes away from our house for another few hours, but we were not contacted until she was gone. We should have been
there with her.
We gained and lost so much in those weeks, I was taking care of a newborn and cleaning out their home, and trying my damndest to be there for my older
son and husband. And failed miserably.
I love my children more than anything, but we lost so much each time we brought life into this world, that we have decided not to take anymore
Take advantage of all moments with the people you love, you truly never know when the words you speak to them will be the last.
Edit to add: As soon as I hit post and looked up,I see it is snowing the way it was the day they died
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