reply to post by sussy
Contact your local police station and find out whether they have a Domestic Violence Unit, and if not, where the nearest one is, and make an
appointment to see them. He will need to go along and complete an interview, this needs to come from him, no one else can do it for him, but these
officers are specifically trained and I can assure you from my own experience that they are wonderful and know what they are doing. They have a
pre-printed questionnaire which they will take your son through, it is highly personal, and it is very difficult, so while he may not want you present
in the interview room, be close at hand for when he comes out, I am sure that he will appreciate your support.
The DMV will tell him this, but he needs to make a record of every text, conversation and incident, preferably in date order, and he should be
prepared to provide his SIM card if necessary, should it go to court. And, they will also want his assurance that he is willing to press charges
should arrest become necessary. They may recommend that he gets legal representation.
What you should also factor into all this, and very carefully consider is, that the Police are obligated to inform Social Services if they consider
that the child's safety is at risk, which from what you say, may very well be the case. Is your son prepared and able to take custody of his child?
Though my circumstances were entirely different, what I cannot stress enough, is how professional these officers are, and they know, and have been
trained to deal with all aspects of domestic violence and the issues that surround that. Trust them. Be honest. He has absolutely nothing to worry
about, and no one is going to judge him for it. But it is hard, and he will need all and any support that is available to him.
Please feel free to contact me if I can be of any help or if you have any further questions.
Take care, and good luck to you and your son.
