posted on Nov, 3 2012 @ 11:34 PM
This is a very long story about my wife and I and how our relationship survived through all of the thick and thin.
ATS I apologize for the lack of proper paraphrasing.... I wrote this on the whim, and it came from my heart!
So my wife and I met in Highschool. We were friends at first, but eventually became best friends.
This of course turned into a relationship, and so we decided that we wanted to be together. We were 18 at the time.
I was living with my dad, working at Pizza Hut as a delivery driver. She was working at Sonic drive in. We both had cars, but after we got together,
things went very wrong.
Her parents decided that they wanted to move back up to Virginia, but we had no place to stay! I certainly didnt have enough money to get an
apartment, neither did she.
So we both decided that it was best for her to go up north until I could get a place.
This did not settle with me well at all. I had to be near her! So, I took my paycheck, quit my job, and drove all the way from Florida to Virginia, to
get her (they wouldnt give me the time off so i quit). She gladly came with me.And we were to be together again...
But the times were tough. As soon as we got back, we had a situation. I no longer had a job, and neither did she. But it didnt matter, we were
We had to end up giving her car back to the car place since her job was gone. But I had my car, fully paid off. So I drove from friends place to
friends place asking if anyone could shelter us until we got back on our feet, but they all threw us out after day 1. Nobody understood our situation.
Nobody wanted to help us.
We finally had shelter at a friends studio. But they did not want us inside, so we had to sleep in their van. I got up every day looking for a job,
and finally managed to get one at arbys.
But, we didnt have any food, so I had to sell my car. Arbys wasnt that far of a walk anyway. So, we had money coming in and things were starting to
But, as time went on my friends decided that we had to go. We were about all out of money, and things got bad.
I ended up buying a car for $100, thinking it would finally get us back on the road. But the guy lied becuase the brakes started catching on fire when
i drove. So I had to park the car at a local truck stop.
And there we slept. We slept in the car for almost 2 weeks. We managed to get some bikes to go look for jobs. I had a backpack with our clothes and
supplies in it. Somehow I left the backpack one day in the car as we went to go look for jobs. When we got back, all the windows of the car were
smashed in. And all of our clothes and supplies were stolen. It was a very very bad time.
So we headed towards the beach, where I used to live. I managed to get money to buy a prepaid phone, and contacted an old friend of my moms. I
explained our situation to him. FINALLY someone had shown sympathy for us! He knew a man who could give us a room for 400 dollars a month.
Around this time I got a job at village inn as a cook. We finally had a room in a home =(
The times were tough. My wife started going off with friends from her work to parties. And soon after that she started distancing herself from me. I
could tell that she was hiding something from me, but she wouldnt tell me. I felt betrayed.
So anyway her parents finally came through and gave us an old dynasty car so I could go to work back and forth. And so I worked. And my wife was able
to get a job at mcdonalds. And life was starting to look up again.
Eventually I got fired at the restaurant, i guess they didnt need me anymore. So we were living off of my wifes paycheck of 300 dollars every two
weeks. It was aweful. But, we managed to survive.
I was looking for a job as hard as i could but nobody would hire me. And eventually the landlord got fed up with our backpayments on rent, and so we
got kicked out.
Luckily enough, my wife got paid not long after and so we were able to get into a trailer. Well, things got interesting at this point, because my wife
was pregnant. Day after day I was looking for a job to help support us and the baby to come, but none was there. I finally landed a job at Walmart
overnight stock. My wife was so happy that she could relax a little and let me bring in some money. I was making 8.50 an hour starting. Which was
great for us!
So I worked at walmart for about month and things were good. Until an entire panel fell on me in the freezer, almost breaking my right arm. I could
lift my arm even an inch, and so Walmart said "Oh well you cant work here with an injury like that, not until a doctor says its okay for you to come
A doctor... A DOCTOR?! I didnt have the money for a fricken doctor!! So... the job of my dreams went away... and my wife and i were sad once
My daughter was born on october 21st.... Times were bad because I knew that this baby was going to suffer....
And then a suprise came... At christmas time, my father announced to everyone that his boss wanted to hire me into their company. I was going to be an
IT making 30k a year!
And so life was GOOD! For a while....
We ended up moving into a home that was making us constantly broke every month. We didnt have the money to move out, and so we were stuck there. This
led to us fighting back and forth and the household was not a good place to be in. This is when my second child was born. A son. And so we had two
children now, in a house, barely managing to pay the bills and have food on the table.
My wife looked and looked for a job, but there was none to be found. None wanted to hire her because she had been out of work for so long taking care
Stress caused things to get worse, and eventually I found out that she had cheated on me when we first got together. The thing that she was hiding was
true... And so one of my friends came swooping in, and well, we had sex.... Revenge sex for my wife cheating on me.
But I refused to give up on my family! I loved my wife so much and decided that we would stay strong through this! And we did!
The years went by, and we forgave each other for cheating on one another. We told each other, how could us cheating on each other destroy all of the
things, the hardships we had gone through?!?! And so, that was our crutch for the marriage, and it strengthened it!!!
And so, we had a third child. Another son! It was a dream come true, I had gotten a slight raise, and our family was happy again.
We cast aside the past and moved on as a couple!
The years went on, and we eventually began to reflect back on our life. Things started going stale and sure enough, my wife wanted to explore the
world yet again. She got a job at a local diner, which was great for our income! Finally we had extra money coming in!