10 simple truths smart people forget, page 1

reply to post by XxRagingxPandaxX

#7 – People can be great at doing things they don’t like to do.

#8 – The problems we have with others are typically more about us.

#9 – Emotional decisions are rarely good decisions.

Everything else about that list I can agree with except those three. # 7 may be true, I know someone who's great at what she does but she doesn't really like it, but you can be even better at what you DO like. I think I have a problem with # 7 because it implies to people that they can settle for second best when they don't have to if they have a choice. And we always have a choice.

#8 I don't buy at all. That's for the weak. I have problems like everyone else, but you're not going to see me project them onto other people. That I can guarantee. And the people who try to project their issues onto me I have very little patience for. Their reasons are paper thin, they annoy me and I like to screw with them in return. Maybe that's childish, I don't know, but that's how I deal with them. I know what my strengths and weaknesses are and I know how to deal with them effectively. If I see someone who's lazy and I have a problem with them, it's not because I'm "secretly" lazy and won't admit it to myself. I'll have a problem with them because I'm not lazy and I see them as a waste of breathing space.

# 9 applies to those who don't use their emotions a lot. If you're an emotional person who knows how to be practical as well, you're going to know by instinct whether an emotional decision is right or not. You've got the experience to tell you. If on the other hand you've been pragmatic and businesslike all your life, then no, don't make hasty decisions based on emotions because you're not used to dealing with them. If anything, take a cue from someone else you know and learn from them.

I know a guy who waited almost his whole life to be emotional about things. He spent all his time being studious, business minded and impersonal. Very, very book smart. Then one day he woke up, decided he wanted to let someone "in", didn't put a lot thought into what he was doing and now he's living in a personal disaster zone. And it's that way because he was trying to be personable for the first time in life, acted rashly about it without a lot of practical thought, and now he's paying the price. I guess he thought his book smarts were enough to be able to deal with a woman effectively. Wrong answer buddy.

# 10 though, You will never feel 100% ready when an opportunity arises, I can get behind 110%. I've never known anyone, myself included, who was so cock-sure about themselves that they were ready for an unknown opportunity. You can act like you are, but you can't fool me. You jump in and take it, of course, no guts no glory, but we're all going to be a little unsure of ourselves when we do something unexpected or for the first time. That's just natural.

All in all though, that's a very good list.