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Originally posted by smithjustinb
I'm developing a new philosophy that all emotions are applicable for a situation, but as they arise, in order for them to have any applicable value, they must be directed in the proper direction.
That is, anger is okay to have, but doesn't serve a beneficial purpose unless it is directed appropriately. For example, I say something mean to my girlfriend and she gets mad at me. I see her anger and I react with anger towards her in an effort to defend myself. This would be the inappropriate response. The proper action would be- when I said something mean and she got mad at me, I should have gotten mad at myself for saying something mean instead of defending, and standing by what I originally said.
Anger, in that situation, went from destructive to constructive and allowed me to learn from it. It was the same emotion, arising from the same action, but consideration was given to which direction it should be directed and becoming angry at myself, rather than her, not only resolved a conflict, but also presented an opportunity to correct my behavior for the future.
Can you think of other emotions that can transform a destructive outcome into a constructive outcome and vice versa all because of how they were directed?