Ok, so I have decided to enlist. 100% sure I will now. I am going Army. I tried to take the ASVAB test on goarmy.com but my browser kept messing it
up. I ended up with like 5 failed attempts at completing it. I finally tried again today, answered one question and had my score. Needless to say I
need to take it again since I never completed it.
When I go to the section about job selection I get no results. Either the army cannot find a task for me or I need to contact my recruiter.
Either way. I am now at step two. I have an idea of what I want to do in the Army. I am planning ahead now for my move back to the states. I am
squaring away things here. I need to make sure I can close my small business without getting into debt, moving, etc.
I am faced with another issue now. One I need help from people who may have had issues telling their family about their decision.
How do I break it to my family?
My family would be proud of me no matter what I decide to do in life. The thing is, I am almost 30 now. My father is older and probably won't last
more than 10 more years. We have family businesses in the States and in his mind I was always going to take them over when he retired.
I will not be doing this. I am good at managing a small business but I am not motivated by it. I have never had ambition for money. I could care less
about making money beyond paying my employees, bills, and stocking the business.
I have always felt a calling to the military. I will be doing this. How do I break it to the old man. I am the only male child in our family. I am the
only one that still talks to him. How do I tell him I will not be following in his footsteps and at the ripe age of 28 and that I will start a new
phase in my life he has had strong words about before with me.
He is not against military service, is not a flower power dude. His father fought in Spain's civil war and won. He has always been a hard guy to
break. His political ideology falls very hard to the right. He is not against military service, just when it comes to me.
I do not need his permission and he would not disrespect me by asking me not to go. I just think I am going to break his heart.
How do I tell him? Straight and to the point. Or do I take it easy and ease into it?
I have not told my wife yet, but we have had that conversation before and she liked the idea. She is awesome.
Maybe I should bring her along and do a family announcement sort of thing, or just a man to man 1 minute conversation?
Has anyone here had a similar issue, being the only male in a family, or having a proposed future laid out that you defied? How did your family react
to the news? How long did it take them to get over it?
At this point I will take any insight into the matter. I don't care if your family is hard core hippies and they wanted you take over the weed
plantation your papi built in the 70´s. If you can relate and help me I would appreciate it.
I´ll take anything I can get. I want to do this right.
My father has had a hard worked life and deserves as little added stress as possible. I know since he is my dad that ultimately I know how best how to
approach him about this issue. The thing is I want some ideas. How do I go about it.
Thanks in advance.
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