this is a completely useless vent but I'm really annoyed and I need to get it out
My son, who'll be 18 soonish, had some problems in school last year, now he's running late, and won't graduate for about 2 more years.
As some of you know from my previous threads, he wanted to quit school altogether. Luckily, his highschool had put a cyber program into place, and we
were able to get him to continue schooling through this program, and he's doing quite well, and much better than previously.
Now, because of this, his father has to continue paying child support until he graduates.
A whole $45 a week (I know some of you men out there are like WTF? cause thats an extremely low amount for child support by any standards).
Minor history - this man left us when my son was 2 - married his internet girlfriend - never made an effort to spend time with his kid - doesn't care
- to me, thats a deadbeat dad, but I NEVER spoke badly about him - I never tried to alienate him from his kid - it was his choice and his families
choice not to be involved, they were always welcome in my home. The few times MY SON made the effort to establish a relationship, I encouraged it,
but it never went anywhere - I personally haven't even spoken to him in about 10 years
Then he has the nerve to call me today to find out when his support will stop
I explained to him the situation, that our son had some issues, and that likely he'll have to continue paying support for 2 more years and he
thats not child support, thats adult support
Seriously??? What I wanted to say was.....
GET A LAWYER IF YOU CAN'T AFFORD $45 A WEEK FFS
You're never around to know whats going on, you think $45 a week supports a child? It barely feeds him.
No, better yet, YOU THINK THE JOB OF PARENTING STOPS WHEN A KID TURNS 18????
What if he goes to college too? Gonna help pay for that? I don't think so
What I actually said, politely, was, "take it up with the courts, it has nothing to do with me"
Seriously, I dare him to get a lawyer - I would absolutely love to get him in front of a judge and point out how much it costs to raise a kid, how
little he's been paying for 16 years - and the fact that he hasn't been any kind of "dad" at all. He'll hang himself.
$45 a week. What a joke.
The sad part is I don't even want his pittance - I just wanted my kid to have a good relationship with his dad.
Guess that plans moot.