I honestly don't think some of you have used your imaginations fully, or read some of the stories here. If you did, you'd realise things don't always
turn out happily ever after. Some times, people die miserably. Sometimes they can be helped and other times they can't, at least not during this
As much as you'd love to "be there" for some of these people...what are you going to do? You talk about "going through this together", but the fact
is, YOU ARE NOT
going through that with them, you are only a witness. Sure, you can provide support, and that may bring some level of
happiness, but is it enough to end their pain? Sometimes no, it's not enough. Yes, they are thankful for your support, but be real here...support
doesn't make pain go away, unless the cause of the pain is a lack of support. But that isn't always the cause of the pain, and holding their hands,
telling them you love them and that they are strong does not take their pain away from them, it sometimes adds to the pain. You want them to be what
you are, but face this and face it well; you are NOT them and they are not you! People judge others by their own standards, but understand that you
aren't the same person. You think differently, feel differently and behave differently. There are some people here who unfortunately are destined to
suffer until they die(usually health related). How are you going to help these people's pain? What can you do when our medical science is not advanced
enough to help them at all? The meds barely take the pain away, and leaves them drowsy and weaker. They've tried herbal treatments, unconventional
practices...and nothing has worked. They remain alive, but their bodies are lifeless and the only reminder that they are alive is constant pain,
unbearable pain, every minute of every waking day. Please, tell me how you are going to help these people? By praying for them? Fine, pray for them,
but do not expect them to stay here and suffer on your behalf. And I'd like you to try to help everyone
...you can't! You're one person, with
your own life, own family, with your own problems, with 24 hours to execute thoughts and ideas from the moment you sleep to the moment you wake.
You're human, you're no God! It is ludicrous to ask these people to remain here and suffer...because that's all they're going to do. Sometimes that's
all that's left; realise that.
Okay, yes you've gone through your problems too and you've overcome them, so why can't they, right? Well...for starters, you may have gone through
hardships, but not always the same hardships other people have went through. Being homeless can be helped or changed. Being without a job can be
helped and changed. Being friendless can be helped and changed. Being an addict can be helped and changed. Being blind can be helped, not changed, but
a happy life is still very possible. Being obese can be helped and changed. Being stressed academically can be helped and changed. Being in a bull#
job can be helped and changed. Being paralysed and in constant pain, with no ability to work or properly function in this world because of your
ailment and the meds, with no one in your life, and no physical ability to meet new people...yeah, it don't look so colourful and rosie now. Overcome
that! Sit there and push through it; I'd love to see you torture yourself trying! Even if you've gone through things people have already gone through
and you overcame it, you must remember, you are not them. People experience things differently.
In no way am I advocating that people commit suicide all willy nilly at the first sign of trouble, because many people can be helped with some care
and patience. So by all means, help those that you think can be helped, and encourage people to push on, but to think that we are capable of helping
everyone overcome their problems is stupid. It is foolishly idealistic to think that you have all the possible solutions for all the possible
problems. Sometimes, the answer is years away beyond life expectancy; especially when it comes to medical science.
I know of a young convict who was on death row in Trinidad (the death penalty has been discontinued, but death row still exists - so you're in there
'til you rot away basically), and he was constantly taken advantage of, sexually and otherwise. He had little family who actually cared of his
standard of living in prison, but not enough to riot or demand that certain changes be made. The government sure as hell didn't care about him, nor
did the other inmates, or prison officers. He was very religious for most of his life, even while in prison and eventually gave up on that. He was
mistreated constantly, and a few times had to be rushed to the hospital because of severe injury due to beatings. How are you going to help him?
FACT: You can't! The only thing you can do for him is lend an ear of support, but does that solve his problem? He took his own life a few years ago.
Is he weak and cowardly too?
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