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Originally posted by Aliensun
reply to post by grinitagi
Most certainly you can help him. Find him a good teacher of meditation, something such as Transcendental Meditation (TM) that fancies no religions are necessary to be a good and happy person and have him learn to meditate by their process.
If he is diligent, he can master the process in a few months and gain terrific insights into his own being and his association with the Universe. This will undoubtedly transform him into a more understanding and accepting person. If he reaches true enlightenment eventually, he will be at the supreme moment of human consciousness and I would venture to say far advanced beyond anyone that is hindered by religious trappings regardless of what religion. (I will partially absolve Buddhist from that statement.)
Sseriously, you are completely wrong in thinking that he needs religion. That is YOUR problem. Undoubtedly, you think he also needs YOUR religion. So you are wanting to help him on your terms either in acquiring your religion or any religion. Do you see your mistake?
Originally posted by gimme_some_truth
Look as some one who grew up in broken home, and as a survivor of abuse, I can say.... If you want to help him, please do not try to force religion on to him.... If he needs help he needs help, but he needs help from a doctor or therapist... Not from a priest who is preaching from a book written by men 2000 years ago...
Plus, you said he is Athiest, so most likely forcing your religious views onto him is only going to push them away from you.
"I will explain what true self-sufficiency is and what is the better way to live alone. A self-sufficient person is a person who dwells in mindfulness. He is aware of what is going on in the present moment, what is going on in his body, feelings, mind, and objects of mind. He knows how to look deeply at things in the present moment. He does not pursue the past nor lose himself in the future, because the past no longer is and the future has not yet come. Life can only take place in the present moment. If we lose the present moment, we lose life. This is the better way to live alone.
What is meant by 'pursuing the past'? To pursue the past means to lose yourself in thoughts about what you looked like in the past, what your feelings were then, what rank and position you held, what happiness or suffering you experienced then. Giving rise to such thoughts entangles you in the past.
What is meant by 'losing yourself in the future'? To lose yourself in the future means to lose yourself in thoughts about the future. You imagine, hope, fear, or worry about the future, wondering what you will look like, what your feelings will be, whether you will have happiness or suffering. Giving rise to such thoughts entangles you in the future.
Return to the present moment in order to be in direct contact with life and to see life deeply. If you cannot make direct contact with life, you cannot see deeply. Mindfulness enables you to return to the present moment. But if you are enslaved by desires and anxieties over what is happening in the present, you will lose your mindfulness and you will not be truly present to life."
- Lord Buddha
Originally posted by gimme_some_truth
Look as some one who grew up in broken home, and as a survivor of abuse, I can say.... If you want to help him, please do not try to force religion on to him.... If he needs help he needs help, but he needs help from a doctor or therapist... Not from a priest who is preaching from a book written by men 2000 years ago...
Plus, you said he is Athiest, so most likely forcing your religious views onto him is only going to push them away from you.