posted on May, 6 2011 @ 09:23 PM
I feel for you as I have a child and a sister in law that suffer from OCD. Both are able to continue on with everyday activities, but with so much
more effort than "normal" people. My son seems so exhausted by the end of the day that he just is ready to collapse by dinner. He's not so bad in
the house although some of his obsessions do carry on here...but outside and at school....I can't even imagine.
I feel bad because sometimes when I'm having a bad day, or not patient I badger him and tell him to just get on with it, or just drop it and usually
it makes matters worse. Its very hard even being a patient compassionate mom to understand where he's coming from, so I don't expect he gets much
better reception from the general public.
He's been sent home from school with a behavioural report (basically when your child has done something "bad") because he refused to start his
schoolwork until he cleaned the pencil markings off his desktop. It's frustrating to me that the school doesn't understand...so I can only imagine
the frustration he feels.
His biggest concern is the future...and I don't mean the future as in "what's going to happen in 2012" but just an hour from now, tomorrow
morning, next week etc. He's constantly getting himself in a tizzy trying to figure out just how everything will play out. For example:
"It's raining and chilly out I'm going to wear pants"
"but wait...what if it gets warmer later...then I'll be too hot"
"then wear shorts"
"but its too cold right now for shorts and then I won't have fun outside at recess"
"ok, then wear shorts under your pants"
"I hate how that feels and then if it does get warm i'll be SUPER hot. If I start sweating in school what if I smell bad. And then the kids will
make fun of me. And then next week when we go on our school trip noone will sit next to me on the bus. We're supposed to do a report on our school
trip with a partner, but I won't have one because I'll be sweaty and smelly and then I'll get a bad mark in science. If I get a D in science I
might fail grade 5 and have to do it all over again. Mrs. Teacher is going to be so disappointed in me..what am I going to do"
Insert crying and sobbing into this typical morning conversation and that sums up my morning...every morning....something different each day usually
something that (to me) is completely irrational and it's hard to be compassionate when you can't put yourself in someone else's shoes.
I remember in grade one he got sent home early because he started bawling his eyes out during the remembrance day assembly. He doesn't even have any
family members in the military...not even like great grandparents, and we're in Canada so it's not like we're a HUGE military country lol! He
couldn't stop crying and saying how bad he felt for the soldiers...he was inconsolable for about 4 hours straight. We have to keep him off of the
news channels on tv..the weather channel especially. As early as 4 yrs of age he was obsessed with the weather channel. (hence the too hot/too cold
convo above). We thought it was cute and perhaps he'd be a meteorologist...and then we realized how bad it was. He would wake up at 3 am to watch
the weather channel. Now that he's 11, he goes online and reads it, reads the farmer's almanac, reads about weather in other cities, provinces, and
Anyhow, now that i've rambled about my own son...the point of this all is that it's definitely difficult for anyone without OCD to even begin to
understand a thing about OCD. I wish you all the best and hope things get better for you