posted on Dec, 23 2010 @ 11:24 PM
Earlier tonight, my boyfriend and I had been Christmas shopping and on the way back to his house, he decided to stop by the cemetery where his brother
is buried. He felt like he should pay his respects, with it being Christmas and all, and the next few days are going to be so hectic that he decided
that tonight would be the best night to stop by. So, we drive up into the cemetery... it's a small family cemetery. It isn't out in the middle of
nowhere per say, but it is off the beaten path and in a quiet area. My boyfriend hadn't much more than gotten out of the car, when this man and lady
pull up in an SUV and pretty much slide to a stop in front of my car. He had his headlights shining so bright that they were blinding me. I had to
cover my eyes and he could see this, so I know he was doing it intentionally. My boyfriend walked up to the guy's SUV to ask what his problem was
and the guy told him that it was private property and that he had no business at all being there. My boyfriend explained that his brother was buried
there and he KNEW it wasn't private property because his family members had been coming there to pay their respects for years and he had visited many
times and that it was in no way private. The guy continues to berate my boyfriend and tells him that he doesn't belong there and he needs to hit the
road. A little more was said... I don't remember it all, but the guy was very belligerent and the only thing my boyfriend said to him to make him
mad was that he needed to stop with the attitude and that he needed to get out of his face and stop talking to him like that.
My boyfriend walks back to the car and gets in, but the guy just sits there in his SUV. He wont move so we can get out. He had the road blocked.
After he's yelled for us to get out, he wont let us out. So, my boyfriend tells me to let him drive. We switch places and he maneuvers the car so
that we can get around the guy. When we leave the cemetery, I looked for signs. It wasn't completely dark yet, so I could see very well. There
were no signs stating that the cemetery was private property or that there were any closing hours or anything. In fact, there were no signs at all...
not even a sign with the name of the cemetery. There were no gates or anything of the such. So, we continue on our way and the guy follows us. He
stays right on our bumper. We figured he would follow us to the end of the road and then turn around and go back to where he came from, but nope, we
pull out onto the main road and he stays right behind us, pretty much tailgating us for about a mile. So, my boyfriend pulls off at a gas station and
the guy pulls right in behind us and blocks us in. My boyfriend got out of the car, looked at the guy and shrugged, as if to ask what his problem was
and the guy wouldn't even roll down his window. I told my boyfriend to go in to the gas station and to get him something to drink or whatever and
then when he gets back out, if the guy is still there, that I'm getting out myself, because I was seriously getting pissed by this point. I should
have called the cops at this point, but I didn't. I regret it now. We knew for a fact we hadn't been trespassing, and this guy was just being an
ass. So, before my boyfriend comes back out of the gas station, I get fed up and get out and walk up to the guys window to tell him that if he
doesn't stop following me, I'm calling the cops. He doesn't roll his window down... just drives off and crosses the road and sits in a parking lot
on the other side of the road. My boyfriend comes back out and gets in the car and I told him where the guy was. He pulls out and the guy continues
to follow us again. So my boyfriend pulls over quickly so the guy has to pass us. The guy then pulls into a place up ahead and my boyfriend pulled
in beside of him. The guy rolls down his window but he's behind the driver's side window... he's more in line with the back window of my car, on
the driver's side. I yelled at him that if he doesn't back off and stop following us around that I was calling the cops and I had my cell phone up,
ready to dial. Well, at that, he takes off like a shot!
So, I took my boyfriend home and dropped him off and he gets a call from his mother saying that she had heard on her scanner that the cops had ran my
tags. I told him that I would make it a point to get pulled over because I wanted the cops to know what was going on. I wasn't going to do anything
crazy... that would be stupid and defeat the purpose. I was just going to cruise up and down the road until they found me. I left and pulled into
the very same gas station where the guy had blocked us in before and called my boyfriend and asked if I should call the police and tell him that some
guy had been following us and trying to keep us blocked in. I had to get gas, but I was a little scared once I was alone because I didn't want to
deal with that guy on my own. He said not to worry about it unless I saw the guy again, but I told him I was going to do it anyway, because frankly,
I was ticked off and scared. More ticked off though, lol. But, I didn't have to worry about that too long, because I wasn't sitting there two
minutes before a cop pulled up behind me. Tickled me to death! LOL! I have insurance, my tags are good, my record is squeaky clean... I WANTED to be
So, the cop comes up and I told him that I knew why he was there and he asked why he was being asked to run my tags. I explained the whole story to
him. He asked if I had been drinking or doing illegal drugs. Told him that I hadn't been drinking at all and had never done illegal drugs in my
life, which is true. I invited him to search my car. He didn't. I explained the whole situation to him and told him that he was welcome to test me
in any way that he wanted and that I would gladly show him back to my boyfriend's house to check him out as well. Then he tells me that he had
gotten a complaint of wreckless and possibly drunk driving on me. I told him that not only had we not been driving wrecklessly, but that the guy had
followed us for quite a while and kept trying to block us in. I explained about the cemetery and he said that no, it was definitely NOT private
property and the guy had no business at all running us out of there like that and had no business following us and definitely not blocking us in. He
asked if I knew who the guy was, but I didn't. I'd never seen the guy in my life. I'm not even that familiar with the area. My boyfriend is from
there. I'm not. He told me he would run my license and then he would let me go. He ran it, no problems, so he brought it back to me and said
thanks and told me that if the guy were to follow me again, to call 911.
He walks back to his car, and I start to get out of my car to go get gas and see that my boyfriend has showed up and is talking to the cop. He
basically told him the same story and the cop confirms again that we did nothing wrong and to let them deal with the guy if he tries to follow me
again. I said we could go back up to the cemetery and I guaranteed the guy would show up again. The cop said he would love to go, but it was out of
city limits so he couldn't do it himself but that if we wanted to, that the sheriff would respond. My boyfriend opted to not go back because he was
mad and couldn't guarantee that he wouldn't punch the guy if he were to start running his mouth again. I was proud of his restraint because I do
hate violence, but I was ready to go straight back up there again so the guy could block us in and I could call the cops on him. My boyfriend said it
probably wouldn't be the best idea though, so I pumped my gas and left, and my boyfriend went back home.
So anyway, turns out, my boyfriend's mom knows who the guy is and says that he's constantly running people out of the cemetery, even though he
doesn't own the land. He just lives beside of it.
So, I am pissed. Not only did the guy call me in for wreckless driving when I had done nothing wrong, but apparently he does this to people all the
time. He runs people out of this cemetery any time he pleases. That pisses me off also. People's family members are buried there and they get
chased off when they try to visit the graves. I'm mad because that's just wrong (honestly, I hate for ANYBODY to be treated like that!) and because
he followed me for so long and especially that he tried to block me in numerous times and THEN falsely reports us for driving wrecklessly which we
were definitely NOT doing.
My boyfriend's mom said that it has happened so much that they have decided to do something about it, especially now that it has happened to her son
and she has another son buried there. I know that the first piece of advice will be to call a lawyer, which I agree, should be the first step, and we
will. But I like ATS and there are some smart people here. I'd just like to know what I can get this guy for. I'll definitely testify against him
for running people off when he has no business doing it, if it goes to court. Family member's graves shouldn't be off limits when there are no
rules specifying a set time to not enter or just because some guy doesn't like people being there. But, I do want to know if there is anything I can
do as well. I've never been in trouble in my life. Obviously, there's the 911 call from where the guy called us in and there's proof from the cop
that we were not under the influence, nor were we doing anything we didn't have the right to do. He radio'd it in while he was standing there. If
it came down to it, we could probably get surveillance vids from the gas station proving that the guy blocked us in. Besides the whole cemetery
issue, can I do anything on my own? Some may think I'm being petty, but I think I have a right to be angry. Some guy thinks he can follow me around
and even try to prevent me from leaving and then tries to make me sound like the bad person?