reply to post by v01i0
"Should homosexual have the right to adopt children?"
Whad do you think?
My own personal views on gender are largely hermetic. I do percieve benefit to a child to being exposed to both healthy mascline as well as healthy
feminine energies. Depriving a child of exposure to either is likely to have consequences. I don't disclude the possibility that a homosexual couple
may be able to express both those qualities...but I suspect that it probably doesn't happen very often.
So I would say that in general, homosexual adoptions are probably not ideal. But I also recognize that the whole problem of having children needing
adoption in the first place is also not ideal. If it were me personally being the one adopted, I think I might prefer to be adopted by gay parents
than remain in a government run foster home. But if the option were to pass up a homosexual couple and wait in the foster home for an extra month for
a heterosexual couple...I think I'd wait.
So if the whole situation is a problem, then in the interest of
solving that problem, I would propose two solutions:
First, when possible,
ask the child. It will affect their life more than anyone. The desire of a homosexual couple to adopt a child, the desire
of a heterosexual couple to prevent a homosexual couple from adopting that child...neither of these desires are as important as the desires of the
child whose life will be affected. Whenever possible, I would allow them to make that decision.
Second, there are cases in which asking may be impractical. We can't expect a two year old to answer a question like that, so unfortuantely we decide
on their behalf. All we can do is the best we can do. Let me repeat that:
All we can do is the best we can do. But we don't all agree on what
the best is. However, I suspect that the majorty of people who believe one way or another that homsexual couples do or don't make healthy adoptive
parents...
don't know. They're simply promoting their own personal views. They approve of homosexuality? Then of course homosexuals can raise
children. They don't approve? Then of course homosexuals can't raise children.
Nobody really knows. They're simply promoting their own personal
worldviews. So...I would propose that we make a national project of it. (Well, state by state. It's none of the business of the federal government to
decide these things.) Gather up volunteers from both sides to draft a set of criteria to
test the idea. Get both sides to agree in advance on
what critera qualifies as a pass and what criteria qualifies as fail. And only
after those criteria are agreed upon, go and examine the data
and see what the results are. So far as I know, that's never been done. Studies on children raised by homosexuals have been performed, but by
individual groups with their own views and their own agendas. It's easy to interpret data after the fact to come to the conclusion you want. The
criteria for pass and fail must be decided before the data is gathered.
What criteria? Doesn't really matter. Whatever both sides can agree on. But personally, I would suggest tracking down all the people who are now
adults who were raised by homsexual parents, and asking them whether they think it's a good idea. And, whichever percentage is greater, yes or no...do
it that way.
All we can do is the best we can do. And doing the best we can is more important than promoting individual agendas.
edit on 25-9-2010 by LordBucket because: (no reason given)