posted on Jul, 25 2010 @ 01:37 AM
First, I'd like to mention that I'm a proud parent of two and then I'd like to comment on why I don't agree with this article.
This article is suggesting that we somehow label "suspected child molesters" as "child molesters", even if they aren't found guilty, so that any
future employers or community members can know who they are dealing with. This is a very bad idea.
When someone is accused of child molestation or pedophilia, they are pretty much guilty in the minds of everyone. I have found myself thinking in this
same manner, to where I automatically convict someone in my head just from hearing the accusation. Socially and financially, their lives are over even
if they are found innocent. All it takes is one accusation, irregardless of how frivolous that accusation is.
Women will often accuse their "baby's daddy" to be a child molester, just to try and "get him back" or ensure that the father won't have
visitation rights. How do I know this? Well, when I was a child my mother did it to my father after they went through a vary nasty divorce and all my
mother had to do, was utter those words and it was all over for my father. Never mind evidence or any logical or reasonable thinking, as those aspects
are thrown out of the window when it comes to that particular accusation. Since seeing how this had destroyed my father, even though it was quickly
found to not be true (after several hundreds of thousands of dollars), the damage was done and he was still guilty in everyone's mind, except the
people he was accused of hurting, his children.
After growing up and this same thing happened to a friend of mine, I decided to become an activist against women using this easy out. I was floored
and appauled to see how often it happens and how logic and reason are completely thrown out of the window when dealing with such a thing. Women make
these accusations because it is easy and extremely affective. Unless you have thousands, possibly hundreds of thousands of dollars for your defense,
irregardless of how frivolous or baseless the accusations are, you are going to be found guilty and even before you are found guilty, you are treated
as guilty. All a mother has to do is utter four or five words and she basically wins her case, no proof or evidence necessary.
If a women is doing this to "get back at you", then it works as it ruins your reputation and credibility. It also causes your friends to shun and
abandon you and your support base to quickly dry up. This is before you are ever even given a chance to explain the accusations made against you and
If a woman is doing this to gain custody or take away your visitations, it works as no court in their right mind is going to allow you to see your
child while this accusation is hanging over your head. Until you clear yourself, which often takes years, if ever at all, you won't get to see your
kids. When you finally do clear your name, you have gone years without seeing your children and no court is going to allow you to just jump into your
kid's life, as the child isn't used to you and s/he doesn't know you. Even if you are found innocent, the mother will often still bring that up in
custody court, that you have been accused of it in the past, thereby casting doubt over you.
It is a guaranteed win for whatever sinister mother chooses to do this. If the mother is found to be lying, there is absolutely no penalty or
consequences for her doing this. It doesn't even make her look bad in the eyes of the court or the law. It is a win-win for these evil mothers. In
fact, many divorce or family lawyers will recommend this strategy to their female clients as it is a guaranteed win, without any risk of having it
These women and their attorneys do not have the children's best interests at heart, as this kind of thing only hurts the children the most. They go
from interview to interview, being asked about their dad's penis, what it looks like and how did he have sex with you. For instance, "Did he make
you put it in your mouth?" is one of those questions. When the children try to refute those questions, they are told over and over again about how
it's okay to say that he did. They will repeat the same questions over and over again until you admit it. They then show you anatomically correct
dolls and teach you about the penis and balls and basically teach young children about the birds and the bees, irregardless of how young the children
are. This kind of abuse from the investigators is very traumatic for children and is just as bad as molesting the child, in my opinion. These children
are made to believe that their father molested them, even when these children know that he didn't.
You would really be surprised at how often this happens. Child protective services won't give you any statistics, but anyone can walk into any family
court in America and just listen. I have done my own statistics after visiting dozens of family courts in several states. I would put the number to be
1 in every 15 cases or so, the woman will claim child molestation against the father, with maybe 10 percent of those actually going to criminal court
and about 99 percent of those cases are actually found guilty. Everytime the accusation is made, the child has to go through the rigorous and
traumatic interviews and interrigations. Again, even if it doesn't go to criminal court, it will take many years for the father to clear his name,
and in the meanwhile the woman has done her damage to both the child and the father.
This is just one form of false sex-abuse allegations and while this kind of false accusation is done with malice, many are really stemming from only
good intentions. Either way, malice or not, false accusations of child sexual abuse happen allot, probably more than any other crime. If you are
accused of it, you are done. Not only will you spend a fortune in defending yourself, but it will wreck you emotionally, physically (with the stress),
financially and it will drive away your family and friends because this alleged crime is so horrendous. Sometimes, even people innocent of the crime
will wind up being convicted of it because people automatically make their minds up when confronting someone accused of such.
With all of this being said, I would like to see it become illegal to not only make false sex-abuse accusations against people, but also to claim that
people could be child molesters when they have never been found guilty of such a thing or to spread rumors that someone is a child molester or
pedophile. There are other ways to protect our children and we don't need to wreck the lives of innocent people to do it. I would say far more people
are accused of this crime, than are actually guilty of it and being accused of this particular crime will ruin your life, irregardless of whether or
not you are found innocent. Every time that someone is accused of this crime, the authorities take it very seriously, irregardless of how baseless the
[edit on 25-7-2010 by airspoon]