posted on May, 18 2010 @ 03:21 PM
Originally posted by AccessDenied
Mblah..you are one of the smartest, strongest women that I have ever seen.
Create your boundaries for your mom, and for everyone.
What you do with your life does not need to make her or anyone else happy..only you.
Tell her to keep her opinion to herself, as it is not wanted.
Toxic people drain your life energy away, and family can be the worst culprits.
The focus is on you girl....keep it that way.
Blup and AD,
I have talked to her and told her this stuff and she is still like this. I can't for the life of me figure out why. My Aunt said that I am a lot like
my dad, maybe that is it. Maybe I remind her of something she doesn't like. I am sure some of it is my job, dancing, but even when I worked at the
bank she still nagged and said I would just mess things up. I honestly won't be calling her anymore. She has not once called me, not in 10years! When
I call she says, oh it's about time, and I tell her the phone works both ways! I have had the same number for 5years and its easy as hell to remember
so she has no excuse. Between her and my sister, I don't care to speak to them. They are so blind to everything and very negative. I am not like that
nor are the people I have around me.
Drums, that is a good idea. It's funny how I always predict what she will say and I even told my aunt way before she even met my bf or even before I
got into school, I knew how she would react. I was spot on lol
My aunt knows she is like this with me and she doesn't get it either. I talk to my aunt weekly because I just can't talk with my mother. She
was never very motherly, didn't and doesn't want to hear about anything I am doing. If you are upset over a guy, her answer: get over it and stop
whining. Yeah!! After a 5yr relationship she told me this, how loving. My aunt told my sister and I something years ago that my mother is the only one
to deny. Before she knew she was having twins (my sister and I) the baby was up for adoption. However when I came out it voided the adoption and my
dad refused to sign the papers, so my mom was forced to keep my sister and I. I feel that this is why she is the way she is, she is resentful of us.
She was 20 when she had us, I wouldnt want twins at 20, no damn way. Ever since my aunt told me this it all seems to make sense.. Could this be it or
am I just thinking way out there??? Anyone can reply to this because honestly I am about to cut her out of my life.