posted on Sep, 19 2009 @ 03:57 PM
To GENERAL EYES: I'm separating this as another post so that if you don't read the above, you might pick this up and hopefully find something
I understand your distress. I had a variety of therapists and found most of them useless to my recovery. Why? I don't like being patronized, I
don't like being talked down to and perhaps I'm too smart for my own good.
I'd like to encourage you to talk to your current therapist and express your issues, or seek another therapist. I'd recommend talking first and if
she gives you any crap about it, walk out (I've had to do it). It's your time, your mind that needs caring for, not her ego. I understand it may
be very stressful to even consider, but my main reason for believing that talking to her is the best first step is that it may help overcome what can
become a pattern.
I have that pattern. Sometimes still. I'm easily intimidated by figures of authority. Perhaps you aren't, I'm just working to relate. But if
you do, remember you have a right to speak your mind and get the best effort your money is paying for.
If I sound harsh, it's only from my experiences. Likely she'll be understanding and work towards molding the sessions to fit your needs. And if
she isn't there are others who will.
Having said that, there's something anyone seeking therapy should keep in mind, that it is a two-way street. A therapist's job is, as best it can
be described, to help the individual pinpoint core issues that may have lead to patterns of behavior in our life. Otherwise, they can only offer
suggestions on possible coping skills. The rest is up to us. That means being honest and forthright, if not with them then with ourselves.
Truth is, when it comes to the 'work' to be done, it's ours to do, no one else can do it for us. Not a doctor nor a therapist. And we, each and
every one of us, has an undeniable right to feel good about who are. We deserve to feel better. I found that an important revelation.