In almost all "Free and Accepted Mason" lodges, women are not allowed to join. There are some other types of Masonry, and some of them allow women, but the generally accepted "Masons" are the FAAM ones.
Almost all of the Masons I know are married. We love our women and treat them well. Some of the views are a little old fashioned, but then again most of the Masons are pretty old!
There are a lot of Masonic related Organizations for women as well. My Wife is a member of the "Daughters of the Nile". There is the "Eastern Star" and others. These are all good organizations with similar principles and charities as the Masons.
I hope that helps!
