posted on Aug, 31 2009 @ 12:10 AM
Before I had children I had a whole lot of opinions that vanished like smoke once those children began to grow.
For example, I actually SAID that I would be putting my daughter on the Pill by the time she was 12 or 13. To me, it made sense .. at the time
By the time she was 13, I couldn't believe I'd ever thought it. And if I'd suggested it to her when she was that age, she would have said, 'What
for ? Why do you want me to take the Pill ? What for ? '. Because even though she was intelligent and even though she was exposed to quite a bit
of life via school, biology lessons, kids gossip, tv, movies, etc. .. she was an innocent. She had dreams that didn't include the messy part of
And I saw life afresh through her eyes and remembered my own innocent dreams of love and the future. At her age, I knew nothing about the wet-patch
on the bed, the terrors of suspecting you might be pregnant or might have contracted an STD. At her age, I didn't know 'old men' (late 20's, 30s)
were attracted to young girls. I thought 'men' only 'liked women' (old women, in their late 20s and 30s'). etc. I just didn't know. And I
wouldn't have wanted to know .. too horrible, too gross.
Parenthood is our education. Our children are our teachers. We might not see that far into the future when we're childless. We might believe our
opinions are sound, are fixed. As sexually-active, child-free adults, we might say, in all honesty, that we don't understand the big deal about some
silly pole-dancing doll. We might believe that we'd still feel this way even if we did have children. But so many opinions fall away when you know
that child, see the trust in their eyes, hear how clueless they are about those wonderful people, 'grown ups'. It shreds you to think they're
going to be battered by this harsh world. Most don't expect to feel that way 'just because' they've become parents. Their unmarried friends
complain 'you're not the same any more since you had kids'. No. You're not the same any more. But you don't know until it happens