posted on Aug, 23 2009 @ 07:31 PM
Children reflect the upbringing they receive.
But sometimes there is a wire crossed and that it does take medications and rehabilitation.
There is not a one size fits all approach to discipline. For instance, a smack on the bum would do nothing for my child. But he is extremely social.
Isolate him for a few minutes and he caves.
Parents these days are too busy giving and not being parents. They are also never home. And we (especially in the US) insist on isolating ourselves
making parenting 10x as hard. As oppossed to living in families where everyone is in charge.
I have has several chats with friends from Africa, where it is literally the village raises the child. All women are mothers. The parents can come and
go and get the breaks they need. While the children remain in an environmetn of a lot of mothers.
They also informed me that basically any adult, can hold them accountable. If that child does something, any adult is allowed to correct them without
question, and then informs the parent. When any adult is allowed to hold you accountable, you tend to watch your P&Qs more.
Maybe we should stop with the isolationism,and start living as a society again. Instead of putting fences up between our relatives and neighbors.
I grew up in a neighborhood like that. I could go anywhere and my parents were comfortable because any other parent in teh area was watching. I would
get hurt and someone would run out and help me immediately and take me home. I caused trouble and my parents knew in a second.
It was the best way to grow up in my opinion. It was a very safe environment.
I think all the isolationism is also what is leading to all the depression. Instead of aunts, uncles and grandparents always being around to watch
you, you get thrown in a commerical daycare.
We insist on infants sleeping like adults, 12 hours in a room by themselves. We can't even let them be infants. People are now forcing them to sleep
through that night at 5 months. (most countries don't expect a child to sleep through the night till 4 years).
No wonder kids are screwed up.