posted on May, 10 2004 @ 03:38 AM
OK firstly you guys need to hear the story...
A little while back i hooked up (everything but #) with a female friend of mine (lets call her Mel) at a party. At the time i had a girlfriend (we'd
decided to stop being exclusive as we were itching the single life but didnt want to end it), and Mel had a boyfriend (who is also my good friend...
lets call him Ken). Now obviously neither of us wanted anyone to find out about this (especially not Ken) so we decided to keep it quiet. For the
record me and my g/f have since broken up, she's irrelevant to all this.
I felt bad so i confided in two of my closest friends coz i needed to talk about it. I purposely didnt tell another of my friends (lets call him Pete)
about it coz he and Mel have history and he has a big mouth. So one the friends i did tell (lets call him Sam), tells pete about the whole thing, pete
sms's mel and asks her about it. Mel then calls me and goes off her dial coz i wasnt supposed to tell ANYONE. I tell her i didnt tell pete (which i
didnt) and say he must be making it up. I get three SMS's from three different people who tell me that Sam just told Pete that me and Mel got
together. I tell them all he was joking (except for the other friend who knew). I send Sam an SMS telling him to tell Pete he was joking... Sam
forwards that message to Mel who now knows that i told him. Mel gets the #s with me and our friendship is pretty much over. Mel and Ken break up
because she is scared he'll find out. Ken is coming to me for support in the break-up.
Now i'm angry at Sam for betraying my trust when i told him under no circumstances could pete find out, that and the fact he then forwarded a message
to Mel that made a small problem huge.
I'm angry at Pete for stirring causing trouble with Mel, which is why i didnt want him to know coz the first thing he'll try to do is use it against
Mel (which he did).
I've lost a good friend in Mel.
And i have another friend, Ken, looking at me to help him with the break-up when i know its indirectly my fault...
Now i know i shouldn'thave told anyone like i said, but if you cant trust one of your best friends to keep a secret, If you cant trust your friends
to respect your private life (Pete knew that if he went to Mel she'd blame me), if you cant even trust your friends to admit they were wrong (both
Sam and Pete still deny they did anything when i have witnesses and have had the messages they sent forwarded to me), who can you trust.
Now Sam and Pete for the record have a history of showing a complete lack of respect for people and they're property, to them life is a big long joke
and they just dont care about the consequences to other people.
Now i've already lost a friend over this (hopefully i can patch that up) but what my question is... Can i trust or respect Sam and Pete ever again?,
not only have they just caused me 3 whole days of anguish (still counting), they've broken up a relationship, and could possibly cause me another
friendship coz i cant help Ken out coz i know i played a huge role in the ending of the relationship...
I have been #ed up by two of my closest friends? should i forgive? should i forget?