reply to post by Max_TO
Thanks for your kind reply.
The ATTACHMENTS book has 10 steps to take in the back of the book toward overcoming the ravages of ATTACHMENT DISORDER. It's just the best book I
know of on the topic. And, the price has come down a lot from $50 to around 15 or so, IIRC, at AMAZON.com
It is a huge help in relationships and work situations to deal with that stuff, too.
My students found a doc the last semester on smoking addiction documenting some recent research about the effects of nicotine on the brain. It helped
explain why it's soooo . . . challenging . . . to quit for many people. Please avoid berating yourself because it's challenging. There's a
bio-chemical basis for the difficulties. Just use that as evidence of your need to redouble your RESOLVE and to !!!!STOP!!!! the first hint of
in your mind. That's where the battle is--mostly--in your mind. And you can make choices there relentlessly until YOU WIN instead of the poison stick
I also thought the suggestion with the ciggy butts in the Mason jar of water was a great one.
A similar but bit more drastic measure would be to collect--FROM YOUR "FRIENDS"--about a gallon or two of ciggy butts & ashes & and pour them in
your bed and force yourself to sleep in them. Naturally, you'd need to shower in the morning before work! LOL. My guess is, that IF YOU FORCED
yourself to sleep in them as long as you could stand it, up to 7-12 days, it WOULD HELP YOUR RESOLVE AND DISGUST with anything to do with the poison
Of course, you'd need to consider sleep, work, etc. priorities. Might need to take a vacation to do that. Nevertheless, IF that's what it took, IT
WOULD STILL BE WORTH IT.
I would not be overly caught up about folks who say they did XYZ and never had another craving etc. etc. etc. Some are like that.
DISCIPLINING YOUR THINKING CAN HELP MAKE THAT TRUE FOR YOU. However, YOU ARE YOU. Each person is unique. No need brow-beating yourself that your
experience is not identical to someone else's.
I do think that the poster just after your reply had some good points. However, guilt is a poor motivator. REALISTIC HONESTY WITH ONE'S SELF, IS A
GREAT TOOL, THOUGH.
The best to you,