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Originally posted by DrumsRfun
reply to post by whaaa
Regardless of if I was or wasn't,I think this is a very personal question that doesn't need to be asked or answered.
Originally posted by DataWraith
My mother used to tell me stories that my Father would berate and belittle me when I was a child and to be honest?
I am a better person for it , sounds weird I know
Originally posted by DataWraith
I have to admit that I was an abused child , I'm now 38 and realising that I was abused , not physically but emotionally, by my Father,
I have a twin brother who was born 10 minutes after me, and I have since found out that he was the favourite, My mother used to tell me stories that my Father would berate and belittle me when I was a child and to be honest?
I am a better person for it , sounds weird I know but see it from my perspective, I have almost NO memories of my Father being at home, only a few scattered good memories, the moment I became aware of the person I was was when I was 11 , my Mother sat me and my brother on the sofa and told us " Daddies not going to live here anymore " It was like the cutrain being pulled back from the darkness and the light of life rushing in.
I felt liberated.
I am a better person for the abuse because I have sworn NEVER to treat people or children like I was. Have never do so either.
It made me the person I am today.
I have no regrets for my brother being the favourite or my being emotioanlly abused because I understand myself. I also have a laugh becasue my brother is still the favourite and treated like a child, where as I'm married to a wonderful woman and he has no one to care for. Still living at home with Mum makes him a very sad child at 38 .
I never will agree with abuse on any level. but it makes you who you are today.