Often in life the things we find attractive in a Partner of Love interest or even spiritually in a Guru, the thing that gives us the attraction above
and beyond any physical thing is easily realised.
We obviously like someone who make us feel better, or supports our "personality" makes us feel special and appreciates us for our own quirks, and
but the deep and large driving part, the thing that really makes them attractive to us is is actually what we admire in the other, their strong
points of traits or parts that we subconsciously wish we had ourselves and even in a cold way of lookig at it we are actually jealous of....
We notice and moan about their personality traits and habits styles that we dont like and dont want, but the thing that makes us tick dee down drawing
us to them is their personality strengths we feel lacking in ourselves, and by being with them bask in this, or take on board some of those things....
also subconsciously creating a One from the two of those involved that we both feel would be the Perfect "Me" or "I" their good points making up
for what we feel we lack mixed in with our good points making the perfect "I".
There is much wisdom in this.... so it becomes a balance then of how much they desire your good points and vice versa, against how much we and they
dislike our and their bad points (which is all subjective anyhow, to someone else the good points could be seen as bad and vice versa) and as long as
the buzz of the positives is more than the negatives the scoreboard stays winning as such for the relationship.....
It often leads to this discussion personified as talked about in real life "Opposites Attract" and all that....
I was once totally in love with an amazing woman, we were together for a long time and one day it sort of changed, and sowed the seeds for the
breakup... one of my passions or beliefs I was talking about and she looked at me in the eye and said mockingly with real almost arragonce
You dont believe in all that do you surely?
It was not the words but the way she said them, and the look in her eyes of ridicule that being older and wiser now I should have walked away there
and then, not two years later as such, it was a spiritual matter, and I ma happy to say since that time I have been proved right in both my and I know
now her experience to......
I know with hindsight that one thing tipped the balance and nothing of her positive qualities, and aham to be honest Mega hot attraibutes to... could
tip the scorecard deep down when such a core and essential and deep belief of mine was not in harmony....
And belief is a strong word to think about in this regard to and is again words of wisdom, especially as over time we change as people so as our
beliefs do so does the unconscious score card.
I know I couldnt stand dating a female version of me, maybe though thats because I do spend a lot of time analysing myself trying to see, subjegate
and release my ego so maybe I am more aware of my negative aspects than most...
Yin and Yan eh
[edit on 30-6-2009 by MischeviousElf]