posted on Dec, 11 2008 @ 10:07 AM
Obesity is not so simple as calories in, calories out, or genese. There is a tyrade of issues that people are just completely unprepared for or don't
know of.
Stemming from sabotage, social pressures, family upbringing, natures tendency to make you eat, to psychological.
Is it really that people are lazy or are they depressed and tired and don't give a damn?
And yes, people are tired. Americans work 400 more hours a year then any other coutnry on Earth. With far less vacation time. Most Eurppeans get 24
vacation days, Americans get 12, if you work for a great company or the government. That doesn't include sick leave.
So we are overworked, taking care of children, we have isolated ourselves so we live 30 miles from the nearest friend or relative so we make sure we
dont' have any help. We are lonely, we are tired, we are depressed because all we do is work. Most of us only see our friends a few times a year.
Our families teach us bad habits. There is the clean your plate syndrome. Where you are forced to eat everythign on your plate despite not being
hungry. This takes a way a child's ability to decide what they want to eat.
That includes forcing children to eat veggies or anything else they don't want. Children are born with an innate ability to know what they need to
eat and when. We quickly rob them off that by constanty pushing food, making them finish what they don't want, and not giving a proper amoutn of
choices.
While a toddlers choices seem to come in spurts, when the nutrition is calculated over time, it evens out. Sometime my kids eats meat for days. Other
times all he wants is apples. I give him what he wants, and he knows to stop eating when he is not hungry anymore.
Before I got married, I lost 65 lbs. When you are trying to diet, the amount of pressure and sabotage is astounding. It is hard enough to not overeat,
much less when you have teams of people, even the ones you love, trying to make you fail.
When you go through your day, pay attention to the number of times someone offers you food, and even chastises you for not taking it. Aw come on, I
made it myself.
Or relatives looked hurt and shocked when you turn down the goodies they gave you, or made especially for you.
A friend had a bday party at work, there are always bday parties at work. I had five people, who all knew I was watching what I eat, try to force cake
on me. But it is birthday cake! the birthday girl herself insisted, even getting mad and saying: it is bad luck not to eat someone's birthday
cake.
I quickly developed a 2 turn rule. If you push food more then two times that I politely turned down, I have the right to be rude. AT that point, I
considered them very rude.
I was amazed at a party once that my husband and I attended, when a friend kept pushing alcohol on him. he didnt' drink for personal reasons that no
one needed to know. But the host kept pushing. And she didn't drink herself!! they had no idea why he didn't drink, alcoholic, medications. No one
cared. They didn't want him to be different.
Because of the guilt instilled in us by the clean your plate syndrome, we absolutely do not like to waste food. So if someone gives us that box of
christmas cookies, we feel guilty about wasting it.
Or we take it to the office where it makes it even harder for others to avoid.
Our office used to get all sorts of goodies, I had to resort to putting a bowl of apples on the table to remind me to eat healthier.
Studies have been shown that a person can only resist a treat 3 times. So when it is in your face at the office, where you are already tired and
depressed, it compounds the problem.
Weight watchers teaches you that if you receive junk food, to throw it away or give it away, but you don't keep it around the house.
How many times during the week do you see cake, cookies, doughnuts, appear at work?
Not all willpowers are created equally. If someone has been indulged by the parents their whole life, you don't automatically develope a sense of
willpower at 18. On the surface, you know it is bad, but the underlying behaviors that have been drilled over a lifetime are stronger.
Then there is the food itself. Laced with preservatives, altered, bleached and then enriched. So much so that most people dont' even know what the
original is supposed to look or taste like. We are told some things are good for you when they are not. Like mac and cheese is supposed to be good for
you because the packet of articical cheese resembles dairy.
EVERYTHING, INCLUDING INFANT FORMULA, has high fructose corn syrup in it. This spikes your blood sugar and makes you crash, craving more sugar.We have
no idea what we are eating. I grow my own strawberries, and they are nothing like the store. REal strawberries are small, but very sweet, where I
can't even eat the stores because they are just large red pulp.
Then you have the schools serving up garbage. When I went on a diet in high school, the only snack I could find that was lowest in fat and calories
was a rice krispy treat. There you go. How are kids supposed to know what is good for them when they never see it? By the time they are adults, the
habit is cemented.
As for exercise, we are duped on that also. We have so many gym machines and treadmills advertised to us that we dont' know what real exercise is.
And that stufff is BORING. And no one can stick to something so boring. When I used the eliptical machine, I was watching every minute for the
boredome to be over. What we are not told is that exercise can be fun. Hiking, dancing, martial arts. I picked up belly dancing. It was hard work,
fun, and rewarding. So was step aerobics. What people aren't told is to work it whenever they can. Park in the farthest spots, take the stairs
instead of the elevator, take the long long way through the office. It adds up. I knew someoen who wore ankle weights at work all day just to
strengthen their legs.
We are mis-lead on so many levels. It is not wonder people are apathetic and overweight. No one knows what to do. I learned almost all this
information, on my own.
And this is just a sampling of the problems, the problems are as varied as people. It is the genes wholly? No. But like everything else it sets us up
for a predisposition and makes it tougher.