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“I have a 2-year-old daughter. I don’t feel that way at all that it replaces her. It’s completely different having a real baby,”
“It fills a spot in your heart,”
Walsh said her husband doesn’t think it strange that his wife plays with dolls. “He likes them too,” she said. “He says when he holds the baby it makes him feel good. It reminds him of the day his daughter was born. Everybody likes to hold a baby. It makes you feel at peace. It makes you feel calm.”
ome customers order special dolls that are exact replicas of their own children who died at birth or in infancy.
A reborn doll satisfies her maternal instincts, she said, without all the carrying on and mess.
Reborns, she said, “never grow out of their clothes, never soil them. It's just fabulous. The only difference, of course, is these guys don't move.”
David is 11 years old. He weighs 60 pounds. He is 4 feet, 6 inches tall. He has brown hair. His love is real. But he is not.
Originally posted by danamoon
Who knows if in the future there’ll be such a thin line between real and unreal? Sad, but probably at that time we’ll also think in a different way.
Over time, the number of single parent families living in the United States has grown. Between the years of 1970 and 1996, the number of children living in two parent homes decreased from 85 percent to 68 percent.
As single parent family statistics continue to rise, we can't help but wonder what the future holds for terms such as family and sanctity...
Substantial increase in the number of singles
Over half of the growth rate in the number of households is due to the increase in the number of singles. The group increased by 300 thousand since 1995, reaching 2.4 million households in 2003.
One million singles more in 2030
The number of singles will increase from 2.4 million in 2003 to 3.4 million in 2030. The main causes for the increase are the breaking up of relationships and the aging of the population.
Dolls may seem to be just a children's plaything, but a closer look reveals much more. This documentary delves into a small niche of adult women who collect and care for shockingly life-like baby dolls that cost hundreds of dollars. Known as “reborns,” some of these dolls have beating hearts and others have tiny veins. They are treated like real babies – with walks in the park, cuddles and regular diaper changes. The documentary follows several women including one who travels to Washington D.C. to pick up the fifth addition to her family of life-like dolls
The study, published in the June issue of American Sociological Review, is based on the first nationally representative survey on this topic in 19 years.
It compared data from 1985 and 2004 and found that the mean number of people with whom Americans can discuss matters important to them dropped by nearly one-third, from 2.94 people in 1985 to 2.08 in 2004.
Researchers also found that the number of people who said they had no one with whom to discuss such matters more than doubled, to nearly 25 percent. The survey found that both family and non-family confidants dropped, with the loss greatest in non-family connections.
The study by sociologists at Duke University and the University of Arizona provides powerful evidence for the argument that the country is becoming increasingly socially isolated even as cellphones, the Internet, and other technology make people more interconnected. The authors found that fully one-quarter of Americans say they have no one with whom to discuss their most important personal business.
The percentage of people who talk only to family members about important matters increased from about 57 percent to about 80 percent, while the number of people who depend totally on their spouse has increased from about 5 percent to about 9 percent.
Americans don't have as many close friends as they used to.
We're networking on myspace.com, sharing photos and text messaging on our cellphones, and blogging at all hours
Originally posted by americandingbat
They asked questions about things like whether people had a friend who they would confide in with a serious health issue, and also stuff like whether people had a friend who could pick up their kid from school if they were unable to.
The results were really scary – so many people reported having absolutely no one in their lives who they could talk about serious issues with.
Originally posted by americandingbat
What the reports mainly focus on is how this trend toward isolation is leaving people without a "safety net" – that while people are okay in isolation as long as everything is normal, this leaves them with no resources to fall back on if something (illness, economic hardship, act of nature) strikes.
Originally posted by orange-light
This quote represents our life today, or lets better say the life of a certain group. Maybe some would claim that it is a “problem” of a people of a certain range of age – maybe from 15 to 40 or 50, I really don’t know. Maybe it is a “problem” of a certain level of education. Maybe people with higher education, higher income or of a certain age tend more to use the comfort of modern life.
Sometimes all these digital networks like myspace, facebook or even forums like this one are the only possible way for hard working people to communicate with other people than their coworkers!
The question is: what can we do? What do we want to do, to change society? To avoid the necessity of faked reborn babies, and to prevent things like AI?
Or what do we want to do, what can we do to make the world more human? To stop loneliness?
Originally posted by danamoon
One of these days I was talking with some friends and one of them told us she was thinking about “adopting” a reborn baby so she could get some maternity experience and then decide if she wanted a real baby of her own or not… It seemed quite weird to me.
Originally posted by americandingbat
Something I found surprising about the study I cited in my last post, was that loneliness and isolation actually decreased with rising socioeconomic and educational status. I would have expected that because people of higher economic classes tend to move more than the poor, it would be the opposite.
I wonder if this is why upper-middle and upper-class people actually reported more social contact than lower-class people. If so, it highlights the problem that you get to later in your post, that it‘s not people to talk to that are lacking in our lives, but people to be with.
I agree with you that giving up long-distance and internet socializing is not the answer.
You mentioned in your first post here the idea of living in communities, which interested me. How do you imagine that working? Would there be economic cooperation or just social cooperation? And how would they form, how would people find a community to join?
I don‘t actually expect answers, I just think it might be interesting to bounce some ideas around
Originally posted by Sonya610
She thinks a doll will help her decide? Why not babysit for someones toddler? Or better yet take a difficult teenager under her wing for 3 months? If the woman can‘t decide then the answer should be obvious; she doesn‘t really want a kid.
I have seen female dogs go into false pregnancies, and they do collect toys and watch over them fanatically, they become quite obssesed. But one would think human females would react a bit differently, realizing that the toy is not real and restraining their instincts a bit.
The caregiver may notice physical and emotional changes, particularly 8-9 weeks after her last season. She may exhibit a change in preferred diet to blander food, fluid retention, and a wish not to take her usual amount of exercise, and she may hoard toys and treat them as puppies. There may be restlessness, lack of appetite, panting, trembling, whining and nest-building at the time she would have given birth. There may be a degree of aggression to perceived threats. She will usually return to normal after 2-3 weeks, 48hrs after the birth would have occurred.
A woman with phantom pregnancy exhibits all or most of the usual pregnancy signs and symptoms. These would include lethargy, nausea and vomiting, breast engorgement, increasing abdominal size and of-course absence of menstrual periods.
Nobody knows for sure what causes phantom pregnancy. However, one thing binds sufferers together: The extreme desire to bear a child.
True phantom pregnancy is thought to have a deep psychological basis, strong enough to bring about the hormonal changes which cause the display of the physical features such as absence of periods, breast engorgement and abdominal swelling which is merely gaseous distension of the bowel.
The rate of pseudocyesis in the United States has declined significantly in the past century. In the 1940s there was one occurrence for approximately every 250 pregnancies. This rate has since dropped to between one and six occurrences for every 22,000 births (www.womens-health.co.uk...). The average age of the affected woman is 33, though cases have been reported for women as young as 6-1/2 and as old as 79. More than two-thirds of women who experience pseudocyesis are married, and about one-third have been pregnant at least once. Women who have been victims of incest may be at greater risk for developing pseudocyesis.
Because pseudocyesis is not known to have a direct underlying physical cause, there are no general recommendations regarding treatment with medications. In some cases, however, the patient may be given medications for such symptoms as the cessation of menstruation. Because most patients with pseudocyesis have underlying psychological problems, they should be referred to a psychotherapist for the treatment of these problems. It is important at the same time, however, for the treating professional not to minimize the reality of the patient‘s physical symptoms. The treatment that has had the most success is demonstrating to the patient that she is not really pregnant by the use of ultrasound or other imaging techniques. There have been reports of patients being cured of pseudocyesis by hypnosis, purgatives, massage, opioids, or after nine months of symptoms, by experiencing „hysterical childbirth,“ but there are few data available on the effectiveness of these or similar procedures.