posted on Jun, 5 2008 @ 02:17 AM
I'm not 100% sure I understand what your problem is, but let me try to figure this out.
You've been alone for a while, and as such have developed a "loner" personality. Now, you're dating this girl (Who you've known since the
beginning of the year, but have only been dating for two weeks.) and you feel like you're growing up and changing. This scares you, because you
entered into a relationship as the person you were, and now that you're changing into a new person, you're worried that you'll lose her.
Meanwhile, you spend all of your time thinking of her, and it's starting to effect your everyday life.
Everybody changes. And since you've been out of the loop for a while, this probably does have you feeling like a whole new person. That's ok. All
couples experience this. People grow as individuals even when they're in relationships, but ideally they grow together. Now, you've only been
dating for two weeks, so I'm guessing you have nothing to worry about here. You're still the same person that you were when you started dating her,
and I'm sure that the things that attracted her to you in the first place aren't going to go away in a matter of weeks, unless she was attracted to
your...loneliness. Sounds like you're just thinking too hard here.
Now, about the whole "thinking about her all the time" thing. This is normal; however, it's something you need to be careful about. If you're
thinking about her all the time, that's normal and good, and obviously just means that you're really into her. Do not, however, let her "become
your world." That's what got me into a lot of trouble lately, and I think it's part of the reason I'm having such a hard time with my recent
breakup. You can't force yourself to just quit thinking about her, but just make sure you're set as an individual as well. Make sure that you have
your own life outside of her. Never let it get to the point where a breakup will cause you to feel lost and out of touch with yourself. I don't
know if I'm giving the right advice, because I've really only been through this once, but don't let her seep into every last facet of your
life....at least not this early. I don't know anything about you or your relationship (Whether it's long-distance, you see each other all the time,
online, etc.) but just make sure you're doing things for yourself at least as often as you're doing them for her. Doing that would have helped me
tremendously. In fact, people told me that all the time, but feelings that people experience for each other are extremely powerful, and it's not
always as easy as it sounds.
Be glad you're in a relationship with someone you really like, don't freak out or over-think it, remember to keep having fun, and most of all,
don't let her become your entire world!
Hope this helped!