I got spanked too, and I think I will turn up pretty good. But there isn't anyway a 13 year old is going to the police station and complain that his
parents are abusing him, after being abused for 13 years.
Why not just tell the kid not to touch the kid? If he doesn't listen tell him again and again and again. Or just let him touch it, he will feel and
will never touch it again.
Take the flame example, it is going to hurt and so is hurting the kid, what is the difference?
Hurt from touching the flame will make the kid think twice before touching again, but the hurt from you spaking will begin hatred on you.